Sunday, November 02, 2014

week-end's end

Well, it's a new day, but my foot is still stuck a little in the old one. Events like my daughter's shower define not only a given day, but, too, the weeks (months?) that precede it and, at least to some extent, the days that follow. And, just as the wedding this June had set the farmette (and me in it) spinning, so, too, this gathering invigorated my surroundings and my attention to them. In such a good way!

Immediately after the shower, I wanted, of course, to put things in order again: to return the extra chairs to Ed's sheep shed, to throw the tablecloths and napkins in the washing machine, to put in the recycling bin all that paper and cardboard, to freeze leftovers and wipe down surfaces. And I did most of it last night (with some help, of course). And I finished it off this morning.

My younger girl and her husband, exhausted from months of work and the long drive down from Minneapolis, slept soundly and late today, despite the extra hour thrown in by the gracious time change. I was so happy for that down time they found in the little upstairs room in the farmhouse!

And now is the time to repeat quickly a run down of this place, because I know I have new readers who don't quite know the farmhouse as intimately as you long time friends do.

The farmhouse is about 100 years old. It was a dairy and sheep farmstead once and for a very many years it was in disrepair. The original barn burned down and the neighbors say the fire smoldered in the silo for years. The farming family by then had neither the means nor the interest to do much about it. The framers had children here and that in itself must have been difficult. The house is small by modern standards: two bedrooms upstairs, kitchen and living/dining area downstairs and an unfinished basement. Over the years, they tried to add space by enclosing the front porch (what I call the front room -- we eat breakfast there sometimes, as it faces south) and then by adding an east annex (what I call the sun room), but they finished neither and eventually they moved out and subsequent dwellers continued to neglect the place.

Many years passed before I agreed to take on the project of renovating the house -- it basically filled me with despair every time I looked inside. But, we did it and we finished it off last summer, when Ed screened a back porch and we put glass panels on its roof to create more light throughout. Seventeen glass panels. It was an extraordinary act of farmhouse love and of determination to get things right.

Were we to build from scratch, we would never design the farmhouse in the way that it's laid out: a living room with only one outside wall and the rest -- with doorways to other spaces. However, given this quirkiness, it does have a virtue that few old farmhouses have: the added spaces and the kitchen have a huge number of windows. And so despite it all, the place reeks of sunlight. Moreover, if you stand by the kitchen entryway, you can actually look out through windows facing every exposure: north, west, south and east. Remarkable.

Here's a general view of the living room and the front room and the sun room this morning as I come down:


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Ed and I eat a quiet breakfast together.


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And later, much later, the young couple appears and we have a wonderful set of minutes when no one has any thing they have to do, or any place they have to be just yet.


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And then, one more final meal together -- brunch this time, with my two girls, their husbands and my older one's friend who came down from D.C. for the shower.


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That's a dreamy set of minutes. Over food, unrushed, happy with the way the weekend had proceeded.

And then it is time for the out-of-towners to leave, though I do pose for one  last weekend photo: just me and my girls. Together. (Yep, I'm the shortest.)


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At home, the laundry is done, the house is still shining. Or maybe it's that the days' shine just sunk into those plaster walls and stayed.

The cheepers appear happy with the sudden quiet here. Or maybe they're happy that I'm home. Or maybe they're just happy to be out and about on a cold but sunny November day. As usual, I can't read cheeper thoughts.


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(Where have you been??)


For supper -- Ed and I eat leftovers. Of course. [Footnote here in answer to Qs: all salads, including the roasted squash and lentils, are from online recipes at the ever wonderful smittenkitchen.com]

18 comments:

  1. Oh, I loved the history of the farmette. And it has history! Thank you, thank you, thank you. You've been so busy I was not expecting to hear from you for awhile. The first photo is so comforting. It is the house of light. For me light is so important. We have good lighting here but not like you have. I am longing for a farmette!
    Nina, I think you live one of the most dynamic lives of anybody I know. Well, not know because I don't really know you but you understand what I mean.
    You are blessed and no doubt deservedly so. I was giving it all a run down today in my brain after I purchased an orchid and it seems the only thing that could cramp your style is Oreo!
    The photos as always are nice. You and your girls a smiling trio. You look so proud.
    By now I am sure all order has been restored at the farmette! Ole.

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    1. We always admire houses that have huge windows or creative floor to ceiling panes that give you the impression that you are one foot out the door, but honestly, in the upper Midwest, windows are a winter risk. Not on sunny days, but on those other cold windy snowy days. Of which there are too many.
      The farmette is large enough (perhaps too large) that it's hard to imagine it ever being in total order, but right now, I'm content -- in the way one gets when most prewinter stuff has been tended to and you are set for the first blast of snow, whenever it decides to make its way here.
      When I was young, I had health issues others couldn't even pronounce, but, too,over the years, I've been enormously lucky. I never forget that. Really -- never.

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  2. Oh, Smitten Kitchen! Marvelous. We learned about that blog when our daughter bought the cookbook for us.
    I was hoping for a photo of you three, or four. That baby is suddenly way out there! So beautiful.

    Just home now, long drive, deep sigh, and a wee dram. You see I come to Nina's Place as soon as I get a free moment! More time to linger tomorrow.

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    1. I hope your weekend was equally warm and filled with good moments.

      Ah, you'll be interested to know that the bottle of hand poured Scotch I brought back in June finally had a formal opening this weekend as my son-in-law is a Scotch man and it seemed fitting at the end of the day...

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  3. I too like to put the house back I order after a gathering. Here's a poem from daughter Emery Lord:

    the party

    i want to clean up after the party
    with you.
    watch you roll up your cuffs
    as i slip off my shoes.
    we pick up stray napkins,
    swap party reviews.
    then we wash every plate,
    every wine glass too.
    the rest of my life, every dinner i host-
    the after-party, the part i love the most,
    you humming Sinatra, like a silent toast,
    Our Love is Here to Stay and so,
    just one more dance with the music still low.
    and though,
    it is just us,
    it has always been true
    cleaning up the party is still
    a party
    with you.

    I suppose I especially like it because I feel warm knowing they have such a strong love.

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    1. I am in love with this poem. All so true and beautifully worded. It transported me to times I remember with such fondness.

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    2. So much to savor about this delicious post - your home so cozy with family and festivity.

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    3. Joy, What a nice poem. Making happy memories. Lasting life times. And about the after glow of parties. Loved it.

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    4. Beautiful, Joy. She really is quite talented -- too, in channeling her emotions into a poetic phrase. Really lovely.

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  4. Susannah looks SO relaxed. They talk about "a glow" -- I see it!

    I was interested in the layout of your house. I've wondered before how the bits and pieces I see all fit together. I think it's great, you have the best of both worlds -- a cozy and convenient floor plan, with the feeling of spaciousness because of all the windows. I have friends and relatives who live in huge barn-like houses, and you know what they do? Mostly live in the two rooms adjacent to the kitchen! and set up a cozy reading/conversation corner where they spend almost all of their time! Meanwhile they could roller skate and play frisbee in the rest of the house! :) and clean the floors floors floors.

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    1. We are fans of small houses! It's hard to grasp why people want so many rooms, especially once the kids are up and out. A friend told me just last week she grew up in an 8 bedroom house and she explained that she had six brothers and sisters. She is my age. Her parents are still alive. And they remain in that house. Alone.

      When I first came to the States I was surprised how many bedrooms people had in their homes. In Poland, kids shared bedrooms. The rooms weren't necessarily tiny, but the only kids I knew with solo rooms were single kids. I shared a room with my sister until I moved out at 18. We both liked it. But I remember when my husband and I were house hunting, he kept saying -- this one's too small! And so we bought a bigger one -- three bedrooms -- and of course, we filled it. With stuff. That's the biggest problem with large houses (besides the heating issues): if you have space, you tend to fill it.

      The goal with the farmhouse was to *not* buy new furniture for it unless absolutely necessary and then, super on the cheap. Used, box stores -- aggressively discounted. I now have great satisfaction in knowing that nothing here is expensive. My laptop. Nothing else. A thief would be very disappointed!

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  5. I've been absent here and need to go back and catch up - wow, missed the whole shower! We are having a family event as well but it's the opposite of yours... it's the nearing of the end of a life - a life that has lived almost 94 years so far but not much longer. So in a while I will do a catch-up of your events, but just scrolling thru, lovely pictures, as always. xxxx

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    1. Oh, Bex, I am sorry. Sending TLC. x0x0x0x0x

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    2. I hope you are okay? My best, you know that. xoxo

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  6. *laughing* I see I left my first comment under Joy's name... but you got the message. :) Photos make my home look much larger than it is. I would wager that your farmette has more sq footage than my living space. I have two bedrooms and a very very small office - the rest is all open concept. What confuses people are the two apartments under my roof. It's an exceptionally good floor plan I've created. We all have private entrances... I can't recall the last time I saw or heard my *neighbors*. It's all so private - and the income is great! After my divorce and relocation, I had to buy two very inexpensive pieces of furniture on consignment. The rest is well worn, well-loved furniture I inherited from my mother. The only insanity I can vouch for in my life is my art. My life has become so tiny, I celebrate my collection every day and the companionship it gives me. :)

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    1. Nothing wrong with surrounding yourself with beauty!

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  7. Thanks Nina, yes I'm fine. Paul's Dad is nearing the end, the doc said 48 hours left. But it's not sudden, it's been a long haul and at 94 he's ready... so whatever the Heavens decided for him, we are ready.

    I was wondering about your sister Nina - has she been to the Farmette?

    Oh, and I had a dream last night about you. I was there with you and a group on a trip somewhere foreign, but I was more like a fly-on-the-wall and not really "with" the group... but it has stayed with me all day and was very vivid and lucid. In it, you did have fun, too! As usual... xxxxx

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    1. I'll have to write a post about my sister. Next time I see her. Which will likely be soon -- in the next several months. No, she's not been to the States for a long long time (though her son came to the farmette three years ago! Wonderful guy. Helped care for Issie boy while we were away).

      Your dream? We were probably in England! :)

      Your father-in-law --- no matter how old he may be, it's never easy to let go of a life. Stickin' with you and Paul, my dear!

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