Wednesday, August 14, 2019

Wednesday

Every few weeks, well, maybe months, you're entitled to give yourself a thoughtful day. It should be a day where you can finish the sentences running through your head, where you challenge yourself to think deeper and read the commentary and consider the alternatives.

As we wake up, Ed asks -- want to go to Ireland for two three months? Then maybe New Zealand? And Costa Rica? Experience life elsewhere for a bit?
Who would take care of the cats? -- I ask, as if this were the most important consideration.
We'd get someone to live here, of course.
What if we didn't like the place we land in?
That's the beauty of being on the move: you can always get up and try something else. For a while.

I give what is the obvious answer, so obvious that my saying it is unnecessary, but I say it anyway, because this is our dialogue in recent weeks:
I will never leave my children and grandchildren for that long. Would you leave me if I stayed?
Of course not, gorgeous. But, want to see the world, experience different cultures anyway?

It's a cool day. Gray, a little drizzly here and there. The cats greet me now en masse and both Dance and Dark Pink ask to be petted as the others watch, fascinated that this humanoid is accepted by two of their lot.

I give them some food (they're all eating again!) and a lot of sweet words and then I tend to the flower fields. Not with real care. Just the usual snipping, this time with clippers, because stems left empty of flowers aren't that attractive.

(morning views)


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I'd been up really late and so I had intended to go back to sleep after these morning rituals, but Ed is awake and chatty and so we stay in bed and talk our silly Ireland, or sometimes Iceland, or occasionally New Zealand talk instead.

Breakfast, on the porch.


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I made a list of things that I need to accomplish in the next three or four days, but it doesn't include things like "think deeply" or "work patiently and creatively." It does include things like "imagine my days of travel," because I have a trip before me (next week!) and I want to imagine it first so that I can slide into a role that is deliberate rather than merely reactive. When I'm on the road on my own, I can let the river run its own course. I don't think much about what I might be doing on a given day. But when I travel with the young family (as I will be doing once more), I don't want to let go of opportunities.


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I got an email with info about a new cafe that opened nearby.
It's the closest one to us! -- I tell Ed, with not a small amount of glee.
Oasis (aka Paul's cafe) is closer...
Nope! This one is only 2.5 miles. Oasis (where we used to hang out day after day after day in years past) is 3.1!  I can only win arguments with Ed with my fingers clicking away at google.

The new place is called Finca (farm in Spanish) and it's owned and run by a woman, Marleni Valle, who hails from El Salvador, and whose husband landed an opportunity in town and so here they came. The place is her passion. The coffee is fantastic! No surprise -- she has teamed with the 4 Monkeys Coffee Roasters in El Salvador -- world barista champs and renowned roasters -- and every cup is heavenly. In addition, they serve some food, including the El Salvadoran dish "pupusa" (a grilled, stuffed tortilla).

Can you put aside Costa Rica for now, and settle for an El Salvadoran adventure, and hang out at Finca?

We bike over, the longer way, via the bike path (15-20 mins each way).

I very much like the place. The vibe is very cool (that's as important in a cafe as the coffee and food) and the papusas -- a yummy comfort food (ours are stuffed with beans and cheese, but you can add pork to it as well).


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It threatens to really rain on our ride back. See those skies?


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We make it back without getting soaked. Amazing.


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Toward evening, we attend an event run by an organization we support -- Groundswell Conservancy. The gathering is at Oak Grove Farm: they're showing off their beautiful prairie. I can't say that the weather is spectacular for it: cool, with the threat of rain. Nonetheless, the farm is less than two miles up the road from us. A hilly road.

We'll take our bikes -- this from Ed. You do not argue with a guy who wants to push exercise on you for all the right reasons.


(Rusty steel buffalo, in the farmer's prairie...)


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(prairie trail...)


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(prairie selfie...)


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(the necessities: oaks and milkweed...)


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Back at the farmette, the kittens are hungry! Patience -- I tell them. We must wait until the cheepers retire for the night.


In the meantime, one last view of the garden for us all. Before the last blooms wilt and the trees turn pale gold.



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Tuesday, August 13, 2019

Tuesday

From frets, fraughts and frailties to serene gentility and calm. Isn't that always the pattern -- one day you're stumbling around, the next -- you're gliding across a lake without a ripple on it.

More kittens are returning to food, fewer minutes are spent tidying spent flowers, a kind Air France soul called to apologize and make amends, and the sound of crickets (no, not frogs) fills the air here, at the farmette.

Morning garden photos:


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Both Ed and I have loads of appointments all morning long and so breakfast is calm, but quick.


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When it's time to pick up Snowdrop, dark, menacing clouds move in. My hair cut person is to trim Snowdrop's hair a bit. How to avoid a downpour? Buy a cookie and sit in the salon and eat it, waiting for the appointment. By the time we finally leave, the skies are nearly blue again.


(at the farmette...)


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(silly girl...)


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The little girl is determined to (nearly) finish building the Lego set and we make great progress! In a couple of hours, we work our way through three more packets of microscopic pieces! But, alas, we do not reach the end.
You want me to get it done in the next few days? I ask this, because I wont see the little girl until the weekend. (She has other family commitments.)
No! I want to work on it too!

And there you have it -- the girl is growing up very quickly.



Late in the evening...


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Pretty light, sweet kitties, tranquil thoughts about the day gone by...


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In the farmhouse, Ed and I flip through the channels of the TV. Typically, we watch the PBS channel or nothing at all, but today, we tune into a Western movie, one from 1966 (so, really terrible from any which way you look at it). To make matters worse, all the commercials target very old and infirm people. It feels like sitting around watching TV in a nursing home for those with greatly impaired mobility.

I tell Ed that we really should consider biting the bullet and spending the $10 per month for Netflix.

You really want to waste your time binge watching Netflix shows? -- he asks.
Better than tuning into a commercial infested bad Western from 1966 -- I retort, eyes nonetheless glued to the screen.

We go around this every once in a while. Ed is loathe to spend money on anything that isn't essential and believe me, his definition of essential is very rigorous. We like our time on the couch in the evening. A good show is an unnecessary bonus. A bad show? Something to groan about, until, like tonight, you can stand it no more and you flick the thing off and plunge the farmhouse into lovely silence.

Monday, August 12, 2019

Monday

Would you believe it  -- another drippy day -- fogged over, clammy, promising more rain.

And another "cats are not eating" day. Why? (Only little Dark Blue chomps away...)


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And the more predictable -- another day of garden cleaning, even though I'm hardly making a dent these days. Forget the lilies -- rain brings with it weeds. Everywhere.

And another day of waiting for two hours while Air France stumbles through a phone conversation with me. (My advice: much as I otherwise do really like Air France -- I wouldn't be on their frequent flyer program if I didn't --  it's not a good choice for families with infants, especially if you're a person who likes to plan ahead and hold on to whatever seats you booked for yourself, or if you're weird enough to want to sit next to your spouse while holding infant in arms. They reserve the right to separate you and in general, mess with your booked, paid-for seat and they will do so, without consulting, without notice.)

Small stuff, you say. And you'd be right -- it is small stuff. How beautiful is the life that is full of the inconsequential frets!

Breakfast? No frets there!


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*   *   *

My flowers continue to show off, albeit in somewhat different, more messy configurations.

(the Big Bed)


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(looking toward the farmhouse...)


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(the lily field...)


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It's my "you call this lunch??" lunch.  I ran out of time. For days like this, I reach for my favorite "no B.S." protein bar: blend dates, cashews, almonds, egg whites and blueberries and you get something that goes oh so well with a cup of frothy coffee! "no B.S." is their chosen catchline.

Do note, too, the table cloth. It's a fill-in for when the big one is in the wash, but I do quite like it anyway -- my extraordinary Polish architect friend, Karolina, gave it to me -- it's a Polish artist's rendition of a stack of hay. Do you see the mouse peeking through (in other corners, you may find a lady bug, or a beetle)?


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As the rain starts its rhythmic play on the farmhouse roof, I set out to pick up Snowdrop.

("What is she doing?" -- you may ask. "I don't know. Being silly." -- I will answer.)


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We dig into a Lego building project. Snowdrop loves these so much, that I quit paying attention to minimum age. This one was 6+. Fine, she can manage 6+! There is a downside though: they are complicated structures with hundreds of tiny pieces, which means it takes FOREVER to complete it. We put it aside after finishing just one packet of lego pieces (out of five). To be continued!

(Pretend game that involves eating cheddar bunnies and looking for those little creatures that are sprinkled around the Polish table cloth...)


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("there!")


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Evening. Ed is sitting on stump, watching the cats. He swears he saw Dance nibble at food. We were to have storms. We did not have storms. Windows are open, crickets chirp. Or, are those frogs? Either way, it's all good.



Sunday, August 11, 2019

Sunday

Looking back, it all looks so normal. So ordinary. And yet, it's a Sunday that feels slightly unbalanced. As if some of the pieces are not quite aligned properly.

Morning rains. Heavy at times. Diminishing finally when I go out to feed the cats. They're huddled together, all six little ones, as if surprised by the weather. Dance is there as well, though a little to the side.


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They're all not eating. Only one -- wee little Dark Blue -- ventures anywhere near the food dish.

Dance, their older half sibling, is really thin. Something is off with her health, even as she has taken to coming to me for a solid rub behind the ears.

Seven cats, seven complicated lives.



I have to repair the garden after a couple of days of neglect. At this point, I am really transfixed by the rare stem sporting one or two lily blooms. So beautiful, and increasingly -- so rare.

A few to remember, wet and radiant!


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How about the entirety? Oh, still fine. Not as abundant, but totally fine!


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(the Big Bed, August version...)


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By 9 I'm done. I go back to bed (Ed never left it). I drift in and out of sleep for another hour. Maybe more. Luxury, no? It felt that way. I never sleep in late. Really, never.

A few cursory swipes at farmhouse surfaces (I'm supposed to clean the house today, no?), then breakfast.


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It's still cloudy, but there's no rain, so Ed and I bike over to Stoneman's for their fresh corn. Thirteen ears, no photos.

And now we split up: Ed goes to my mom's, to fix some stuff for her and I head out to the grocery store. On Sunday! Very weird. By the time I'm home, I see that it's really really late. I need to fix dinner for the young family! I rev up the motors and put a move on it. No, really, I rush like a crazy hyena.

The young family arrives...


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Don't worry, I'm on it! My daughter has a chore to get through, I have a dinner to cook. Meantime, kids want to be held. Both. For no good reason.


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Finally: dinner's ready!


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The dinner feels good and normal. I mean, it's slightly cool right now, but still, it's typical August stuff: on the porch!


After the young family leaves, after the last dish is washed clean, I go outside and try once more to coax some food into the kitties. I have some enticing cans of yummy tidbits! Again, only one of them takes a nibble. The others? Solidly refusing to touch anything.

Well so be it. Who can understand cats anyway.


I retreat to the farmhouse, Ed pops some corn for the both of us. Heavenly in its simplicity and ordinariness.



Saturday, August 10, 2019

Saturday

Comings and goings: the constancy of them in my life! You'd think I'd be more at peace with transitions and transfers...

No, the answer isn't to quit the incessant movement. Obviously I go places because something I crave is out of my reach if I stay home (the young family comes to mind). I'll never sit still so long as Paris is on the other side of the ocean and, more importantly, my younger daughter and her family live away from Madison.

Ah well, I know that departure melancholy fades, mainly because I know I will be up and moving and reuniting again.

This morning belongs to Primrose, of course. Primrose, the builder.


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Primrose, mom's cooking assistant...


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... and grandma's breakfast companion.


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Nourished, she kicks around a ball...


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She rests, with ball, but only for a while.


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Catch me if you can!


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I can, and I do.


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Okay, time to settle down. With a book. With dad.


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We go out for our traditional parting brunch. Hot Chocolate this time, because honestly, it's always good. And especially with the little girl and her parents. Sigh... all you need is love... well, and food and shelter and wise authors to read and beautiful music to lift your soul, but honestly, it does all start with love...


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(Here's the food part! Jammy toast will do that to a mouth!)


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I take off from here: it's a perfect way to depart -- the last image is of the three of them, together...


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Happy.

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A long El train ride, with construction detours, to the airport. A long bus ride, also with detours today, to Madison. Then a brief car ride along rural roads, where I get pulled over by a police officer.
What seems to be the problem here?  - he asks.
I don't know, you tell me! - I retort.
You're driving slow. And a little off the road.
I pulled up to photograph cranes!
What cranes?
Take a look! -- I point to the fields by the road.


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Some people never stop to smell the roses!

Finally home. No bud snipping tonight. Somehow it just doesn't seem necessary.