Silent rage?

If the Finns cannot express anger, does that make them more prone to suicide, alcoholism and depression? What happens when a nation practices stoicism and silence to such an extent that it makes the government and the mental health professionals nervous? Is a STAID nation a happy nation? Or is it a repressed, resentful nation, in need of help and deserving of pity?

Why is anger completely absent from the very limited palate of available emotions in Finland? The IHT offers some possible explanations (here):

"Self-control is very important in Finland," said Liisa Keltikangas-Jarvinen, a prominent professor of psychology at the University of Helsinki. "You cannot show anger; it means you can't cope. If a person is very temperamental and alive, expresses emotions like anger and happiness, the person is seen as infantile."

How is life without anger and with minimal emotion? Well, it’s externally calm:

Here, experts say, a car accident triggers, not blame and insults, but a polite exchange of information. A bus breakdown causes no complaints; rather, the Finns on the bus will file off and try to push it to the next stop. …It is not unusual to walk into a restaurant and spot most people eating dinner in silence, content to chew and not chatter. Silence is a sign of wisdom and good manners, not boredom.

Well, I was willing to go along until that last comment. A quiet meal? To a Pole – how utterly awful.


When I was in my college years, I spent several months working on a farm in Finland, hired to teach the kids there some English. It was impossible: the time was too short, their language base was too limited and varied. But I loved the multigenerational family, all coexisting in a small, meticulously clean house. True, the father in the family was a bit of a drunk, but he was a QUIET drunk. If there was violence, I did not see it. There was, however, one opportunity for a form of family rage to come through, and that was in the sauna. As we piled into the family hot house after a day’s work, the kids would bring out the birch branches, wet them in the water (just to hear that sizzle of hot steam against flesh), and whip away at each other, me included. The practice was then to run across the field and jump into a cold lake (even in June, it was freezing). Emotions, both positive and negative, would somehow be drained out of you, so that all that remained was the isolation (we were close to the Arctic circle), the forest, and the eerie quiet.
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