I am reminded sometimes of a children's book I had for my girls a long time ago -- "Screamy Mimi." We live in times of very many screamy mimis.
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
thoughts and photos
1.
Thoughts
An article in the NYTimes, written by a literary types, attempts
to set forth the context for why people travel and how they go about doing it.
(Through managed tourism? Through a more humble exploration? Through uncomfortable
encounters and enlightening observation?)
I had to read it, of course. I spend every spare penny on
travel (and in younger years I spent money I had yet to earn on it too); indeed, I find
a period of several months without leaving home to be – tough. Having someone
explain to me why I do this is... interesting.
As usual when reading these kinds of speculative essays, I
find myself protesting the stated categories: it’s this or it’s that. Well no,
for most of us who are energized by observing (through a lens, or at a café bar
on the village square) a world of strangers, it’s most of the above.
The world elsewhere is never better than my own, even as
some things there, far away function in ways that are more to my liking (and of course, some
things function significantly less well). And while I’m on this topic of “better” (or worse),
let me say a word about showers. I mean the public ones – at beaches. Both
France and Spain have lovely outdoor shower heads (the Spanish ones are newer,
aesthetically delightful, but in both countries, they are superb) for the
general use of the public. We found them indispensable – wash off the salt, the
sand, refresh yourself, move on.
Yesterday, at Devil’s Lake, as I noted here on Ocean, we read posted warnings about swimmer’s itch (in case you don’t know, it’s a gross
parasite that enters through your skin and causes rashes, swelling, etc etc,
sometimes for weeks on end). Tips on how to minimize the possibility of this
include rinsing yourself in a shower right after the dip. Ed swam, I waded – so
a rinse was in order.
A rather large and ugly building to the side housed a toilet
and two shower stalls for each gender. A line was forming at the female end of
things and I poked my head inside to see what the hold up was. Close the door!
I was told emphatically. It’s crowded enough in here. I closed the door and
waited. Minutes passed, nothing. I looked in the door next to the showers – a
general toilet area. I poked inside the shower area again and got the same -- close the door! Two women, not
showering at all, were changing. Well okay, but I suggested that, since this
was taking a while, they may want to use the space next door, as the line was
getting long for a shower. I got the loudest public scream in my face I ever
remember getting. Shut the door now! We want privacy! There was spit and fire in her
eyes.
I thought about this for a minute. Privacy. Our big
entitlement. Mine, mine, not anyone else’s. It struck me that if someone
screamed at me in this way in, say, France, I’d have to think that there’s pent
up anger seething there, among the people. But then, France doesn’t have closed
off (in ugly buildings) shower stalls, so I’m not likely to ever face this
problem there.
So I wondered if maybe we
are a nation of very angry people. As the media broadcasts our general
dissatisfaction (with Congress, with each other), as opportunities for
expressing anger flourish (blast away at the person you don’t agree with – it’s
your right!), maybe we let it all out at the expense of looking for something
less... well, loud?
I am reminded sometimes of a children's book I had for my girls a long time ago -- "Screamy Mimi." We live in times of very many screamy mimis.
I am reminded sometimes of a children's book I had for my girls a long time ago -- "Screamy Mimi." We live in times of very many screamy mimis.
I’m allowed to express my opinion! Yes, but must you? Isn’t it
like second hand smoke – it so often harms those in the vicinity and it seems more and
more that we cannot get away from it, because everyone is smoking angry words
of rage?
So back to my thoughts about why I travel (and, too, write
about travel): for one thing (and there are other things), it helps me see the good ways people treat each other. Sure, I'm on the prowl for it. There are plenty of hopelessly angry and disenfranchised people in
France and Spain. I know that. But how does the rest of the population cope? We can always use additional insights here, no? I’m interested in finding this out. And so I like watching the small everyday things: the
way people greet one another in the bakery or at the market. Or leave stale baguettes for someone's chickens. The way kids learn to surf on the beach. The way they all use public showers. Kindness to strangers, even when the strangers are a pain in the ass, toting cameras, knowing too few words and understanding too few customs. I like that. It gives me hope.
2.
Photos
My daylilies [“Hemerocallis” -- or hemera ('day' in Greek) kalos ('beautiful') -- the flowers that are right
at the front of the farmhouse] should
be starting their colorful parade in July, continuing at least until mid
September. I plant them with that in mind. Instead, they’re nearly done for the
season. A final tribute then, to the flowering of the farmhouse pretty girls:
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Each little flower gets it moment of immortality. Sweet.
ReplyDeleteI think you've answered this before, but I forget . . . when you take pictures of people in the streets and at their activities, and you're not zooming anonymously, do you ask, either verbally or nonverbally, for their consent?
Lee -- I almost never do (ask for permission). I don't like taking posed photos. They don't capture the everyday for me.
ReplyDeleteThere are exceptions. If I approach a vendor (say a bakery in France) and they're sort of looking doubtfully at me and my camera, I'll ask. Different countries have different cultures about this. Polish vendors are tough. Not used to the publicity. French and Spanish -- much easier. They don't really mind. Except butchers. They have had their share of animal activists doing harm to their businesses!
I am most careful with children. From afar and not in any compromising poses.
The law is on my side (you're in public -- you can be photographed, unless it's for profit and even then, artistic purpose cuts you a break). Still, I don't like making people unhappy so if I sense that someone doesn't like my camera, I retreat.
Good thoughts on travel and boorish behavior. Wonderful lily photos...sad that I'll miss seeing them. :(
ReplyDeleteI may have put this on my blog already, but I'm on an Americans in Denmark facebook group and it honestly feels like every post, no matter how innocuous, turns into a reason to complain about things here in DK or call someone names, and I wonder-- would it be like this on any Americans in (name your country) group? Would it be this same way on any (name your nationality) in Denmark group? Is it Denmark? Or is it the Americans? Maybe a little of one and a lot of the other. And maybe that everyone feels they can say things online they would not say face to face.
ReplyDeleteI don't have the perspective yet of living here long enough and then going back, to know what kind of differences I will notice in terms of attitudes and personalities. I don't hear the Danes complaining much, but maybe that is because I usually don't know what they are saying. Maybe I'll be able to eavesdrop in a year or two!
This is maybe only peripherally related, but one thing I did not like about law school was that everything was a debate. I liked classroom debates about legal topics, but I didn't like going up to someone and mentioning how pleasant and sunny it was outside and have them tell me, 'Well, actually (italicized), it's quite (italicized) cloudy.' Way too much feather fluffing for my liking!
Really am loving your flower photos, Nina. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteIn philosophical discussions about changing clothes on beaches, I find it helpful to refer to Mr. Bean, who has a hilarious sketch of doing just that. But to get a lousy attitude, there is always a condition. (Don't even think of using the term "pre-existing." Thank you.) The bigger picture at Devil's Lake (where, lo, in 1972, I wrote a feature story about, yes, Swimmer's Itch.) is that the facilities are inadequate. People don't nimbly change under their towels, because they have never seen anyone else do it!
ReplyDeleteMy opinion: People chose to be angry only when there are witnesses.
Flowers are trump.
Diane: we've seen it, haven't we... (boorish behavior, not the flowers!)
ReplyDeleteBex: thanks as always!
Regan and george h: complaining has become (has always been?) a way of life. Perhaps it's universal. Places where I worry most about criticism are ones with a strict *code* (i.e. England). Anger? That's now an epidemic here and yes, especially when there's an audience for it.
On the subject of towel changing -- I hold the towel, Ed does the changing. Works every time. (In those southern European countries, towel is not necessary. We always pick a spot at the distant edge of the beach and just change. Unlike locals, who often didn't bother finding a spot at the distant edge. But, I understand we are of a different history here. The people who sailed on those early ships to America weren't searching for a place to land and shed clothing. Quite the contrary, I would think.)