Yesterday, in my Ocean post, I tested your commitment to a lawful existence. Are you maybe less law abiding than you think? I wrote about common infractions -- such as crossing the street on a red light. Several of you pushed back, claiming that you didn't even go that far: you walked when the little green man told you to walk. One person noted that it may be a cultural thing. People in Japan or Denmark (rather than the the ruggedly individualistic U.S.) have a culture of obeying traffic laws. But I think it hits beyond culture. I'll never forget an early trip with my girls to New York. Having lived in Madison, their experience with pedestrian traffic signals was minimal. And on trips to Chicago, we always obeyed the signals. Traffic moves swiftly and rather recklessly in that city. Enter Manhattan: do pedestrians ever pay attention to traffic lights there? I mean, geez, when you're on 54th and 2nd, you can practically see the movement of cars in Chinatown! Nothing is careening down the avenue? Cross! Indeed, if you walk along the avenues and wait for street lights along the cross streets to change, I swear, you're going to hold up the whole rhythm of the city! So, naturally, I crossed. With the girls. On red lights.
They were properly horrified! And they refused to go along! My little girls stood at the street corner, holding hands, waiting for the light, even as hoards of people passed by. Now that's a firm position on obeying the law! (Or maybe they were staging a mini rebellion against mom's know-it-all-ness?)
But I'll take you to another infraction now -- you obedient types out there! If, until the 2003 Supreme Court decision (Lawrence v. Texas), fornication (i.e. sex without or outside of marriage) was illegal in your state, were you, perhaps violating a law there? Because if not, according to the numbers, that puts you in the minority. And so are we back with the position that some laws are best left ignored?
I breathe a sigh of relief. My future stays at (illegal) AirBnBs are secured!
who's who on the Internet
Here's a pattern: I plunge into a new social media forum, then (and only then) I learn the rules. And one rule I learned is that your name is yours to use, from the moment of birth til the day you die -- except when you venture forth into the brave new world of the internet.
True, on Face Book, you can only participate if you use your real name. Are you Judy Schultz in real life? Well then, Judy Schultz you must remain for the purposes of your FB account. I know several people who do not follow this, possibly not having read every last detail of the contract between themselves and Face Book. But most people obey: your real name, or bust.
In blogging, writers are all over the place. Mostly they take on names that match their blog content. A gardening blog might be written by the "wild rose of texas." Parenting of infants may have something like "tired and cranky" as a pen name. My night with a screaming baby. By Tired and Cranky. When I began blogging in January of 2004, I assumed that I would have to stand behind my words so I chose the very exciting blogger name of Nina Camic. Which happened to be my real name. Creative, no?
In twitter, I again used my real name. I mean, I blog with Nina Camic. I Face Book with Nina Camic. Why would I be different in this forum? But now I'm learning that if you're a nobody, often you play with names there as well. Though "wild rose of texas" would be suboptimal. Too many letters. Choose short and sweet and often nonsensical. Now, if you're famous -- say you're the Queen of England, you put your twitter name right out there. But if you are that famous, someone else will most likely be writing your tweets for you. So if you see a name on Twitter that you recognize, don't get too excited. A paid staffer may be tweeting.
In the end, I'm glad I stuck with the same name in all circumstances, for all purposes. When I run into people who recognize me from Ocean, they don't say "Hi, wild rose of texas!" They say "hi Nina!" It feels personal and warm.
cheepers
And speaking of warm, here's another update on the Polar Vortex and the cheepers.
After breakfast, in the front room of the farmhouse...
...but before leaving for the weekly trip to The Store (grocery day is a big deal if you live in the country), I peek in on the brood.
You have to check for eggs frequently or they'll freeze, crack, explode, or do who knows what. In other words, you may have yourself a wasted egg (except if you're Ed, who insists on eating it even if it freezes, cracks, explodes or otherwise looks weird). And, besides the egg check, I have this great fear that one of the hens will freeze while standing around waiting for spring to come and so I want to check on them a lot, to nudge them forward in case they forget to move.
They do a lot of standing on one leg and gazing south. I think their brains are working overtime, trying to figure out how to escape the cold. (They stand on one foot to warm the other.)
The chickens are fine. Off I go to shop. Which takes a while.
I come back and look toward the barn. They're still within its orbit. As if fearing that a walk away from this relatively safe haven will plunge them into another unpleasant environment. After all, they don't know that winter is as bad as it gets. They don't follow our calendar. I don't think.
I call them up for a treat. This is the time to bond with the hens, to placate Oreo, to feel like I am really tied to the farmette land, flora and the animal kingdom that passes through.
And then I lead them back to the barn area.
It's such a simple existence for them! So very lovely! But right now, I keep thinking -- so very cold.
After I read this post I started thinking about crossing at intersections. I prefer to cross where the traffic ends when possible. To me it just feels safer because I have almost been clipped several times by people running red lights making a turn. So, crossing the street becomes more of a decision of what is safer, where. I did not know it was illegal what I was doing. Hubby filled me in and said that I could get a ticket (CA). Because of that I stopped but would go the extra block or so trying to avoid more heavy traffic and red light runners. Years ago pedestrians had the right of way in CA. You would not know that now.
ReplyDeleteWith Facebook you have to, as you pointed out, use your real name but you can use a nickname too. That nickname can take the place of your real name on your timeline/posts. However should you do this it takes 6 months to make any adjustments with your name.
Wonderful photo of Butter. Love the chicken photos. You could easily publish a book just of chickens....but I doubt that is what is on the agenda!
Well, I did think that writing a book for kids about our chickens would be sort of cool. Oreo alone would make for a good story.
DeleteI agree with you on cars and pedestrians. As the cars grew more powerful, so did the aggression of those driving them.
Nina, I think a children's book is a good idea. Maybe Oreo can come out a winner. I was thinking about the last attacking experience that almost lead him to the end of his road there. Maybe a chapter in the book where his proves his self worth by alerting you and Ed to a fire in the barn and saves the day. Oreo the hero!
DeleteI love that idea! Absolutely superb! Oreo, the underappreciated rooster! Yes!
DeleteOr, you could make the book for small children and teach them how Oreo changed his behavior to include more friends than just chickens, learned he didn't have to be mean when new friends approached, etc.
DeleteI still maintain that it is mostly cultural. Kids go through a real rule abiding, black/white kind of phase. If they knew what the rule was (stop means red, green means go) I'm not surprised they were horrified at your disregard for it.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you on the Airbnb issue. It seems like governments are going to have to figure this out because people want it. We nearly only stay at places through Airbnb now. Catalonia seems to have made rules regarding this. We're staying at an Airbnb rental in Barcelona and the woman is required to give copies of our passports to the local authorities within 24 hours of check-in. This is the first place where we've had to do anything like that.
I'll agree with you on kids and rules. (Though they still think crossing on a red is uncool and God knows they follow their own precepts these days.)
DeleteI notice your reference to Catalonia as opposed to Spain: I see where your heart lies! (I so love Catalonia... on both sides of that border.)
Actually... I had Catalonia in my mind because she referenced a Catalonian law to me... I think!
DeleteVery cold here in Ohio too. You asked me about our veggies: we still have spoon mustard and purple kale out there. We brought in the broccoli rabe and the Brussels sprouts earlier this week, and they were kind of puny. Brought in a haul of carrots, orange and also purple, the last of turnips and beets. Not that I want to eat these things -- but Dan will concoct some kind of wonderful roasted root stew.
ReplyDeleteThis week we enjoyed a big salad with the very last of our own lettuce. Tomorrow...snow!! Sheesh!
Re rule abiding (aside from the golden rule). Husband got a ticket for jaywalking downtown and even paid it. I wanted to call city hall and ask if maybe they might have something more important to do?
Last year I sat in a turn lane as two cycles went by without an arrow for me. (Well, I wasn't sure because you know how you zone out at a red light, play with the radio..) A third cycle bypassed my turn and now there was a car behind me. So I took my first chance to go, and he came on through right behind me. The herd mentality applies to following the rules and also to breaking them.
True (on herd mentality). Usually I'm on the side of the cyclists: drivers are really spiteful and do not switch lanes when passing, making the whole experience of cycling on busy streets terribly unpleasant. But as you get close to our campus, my allegiance switches. When I crossed on a green light on foot, I routinely had bikers weave around me at full speed. I would always, ALWAYS yell at them! Hateful road hogs!
DeleteA staple on Sundays (for when the young couple is here) is a plate of predinner snacks. I include beet chunks, roasted in olive oil and with thyme. It's such a yummy (and healthy) snack!
Oh, haha, I was talking about cycles of traffic lights, not cyclists!
DeleteBut if you're onto cyclists: My musician son enjoyed cycling for exercise, until too many drivers came too close to him. He no longer felt safe.
Sometimes drivers do not move over for me while I'm at my rural mailbox, though I look like a little white haired lady.
How can we forget that these people "in our way" are human beings? Someone with whom you might have a pleasant exchange if you were actually face to face?
An old high school friend of mine, a doctor, was killed while jogging on a country road by a pickup truck's extended side view mirror. That driver fled the scene, went home, parked in his garage, and shot himself. Mindless hurry, or multi-tasking (we're not as good at it as we think we are) or puny road rage can bring terrible tragedy.
I really did read cycles as an abbreviation for bicycles!
DeleteRural roads, even empty ones, aren't free of danger. But then, my mother just told me that I should be careful when I'm next in Paris, because she just read about a big wild cat on the loose there!
I did too (cycles as bicycles). When Greg was back in Madison this summer biking to work he noticed how the cars would change lanes when they passed him and to him it felt so exaggerated... like the drivers didn't know how to drive safely yet confidently with bicyclists so they took unnecessary precautions. Of course, of course, better safe than sorry. Also, I swear I've seen a chicken or two with feathers on the feet, but of course that's probably rare and your little guy and gals weren't blessed with it.
DeleteYou sparked a long-dead memory in my brain... about the chickens standing on one foot to keep the other one warm... when I was in 2nd grade, I used to stand up beside my desk all the time, the teacher would implore me to sit down, but I wouldn't. I'd stand up and also I'd stand on one foot, with the other foot planted on the side of the opposite knee area. It felt good to stand there like that. I wonder if that was an early sign of future psychological challenges for me?
ReplyDeleteDo chickens have cold sensors on their feet/legs?
Chicken lack feathers on their feet and so they're vulnerable there. Frostbite is a worry (especially for their combs).
DeleteLoved your 2nd grade memory. I can just imagine a Bex, standing there on one foot!