Sunday, July 09, 2023

Paris!

I once purchased a kids book that emphasized only one thing -- in France, everyone says bonjour. That was the title (Everybody Bonjours), that was the message. And it's a good one: don't even think of starting a conversation with a clerk, a store keeper, a bar tender -- anyone! -- without first saying bonjour. It's not just a habit. It's born of the belief that every human relationship, even the most trivial one with a stranger is meaningful. On the rare occasion that I would forget this, I get that look -- ah, she's one of those. Sometimes, especially in rural areas of the country, I have been openly reprimanded for forgetting. 

So -- bonjour mes amis!

I look out my window onto an empty street.

(to the left)


It's Sunday. Parisians don't rush this day. 

(to the right)


(The hotel has quadruple panes to keep the street noise out. It's the second hotel of my trip that has such incredible soundproofing. In the Villa Copenhagen I had arguably the noisiest room of the city: just one floor up from the major intersection in front of the railway station. I heard nothing.)

The young family is sleeping in: the kids are on their late morning/late night schedule. I leave them to their rest and go down to breakfast.




This is where I know we'll do better here than at my beloved Hotel Baume, where the breakfast room is small and not altogether great for young ones. Here, there's plenty of space and plenty of food! And it strikes me that this is why I love smaller hotels (d'Aubusson and Baume both have about 40 rooms spread over five floors): the breakfast is meaningful. At the Villa, though superbly choreographed, it was crazy busy. It was all about getting food into you at the start of the day. Not here.

I dont know about you, but I surely love love love intimate, meaningful breakfasts.

And then I take a brief solo stroll. Toward the park.


(a French papa and his petite)


Because it's Paris.










There was an article in the NYTimes last week that said this truth that every visitor should hold dear: just walk the city. Pause if you're tired, snatch a coffee or a vin blanc and then walk some more. Skip the checklist. Just walk.

They should have added a P.S. -- dont have knee replacement surgery two months before a planned trip to Paris, but I have been training for this and so I am ready. (Heck with the therapeutic window on this trip!) And as I walk,  I study the faces -- of the visitors, of the Parisians. Of people who share this moment with me on the streets of this city.






And then the young family is up and I join them for their breakfast. 




Well, half of them. Juniper crashes this morning with one of those travel bugs that comes suddenly and usually ends just as suddenly. In any case, the dad stays with her while she rests up this morning, while the mom and Primrose come down for the morning meal.




[We are not the only three generational family here. Earlier, I met two sisters with their kids and the grandparents. Caveat: their kids are high school/college age. Is that easier? Well, the focus there is on the grandpa who is of poor health. The dilemmas of life: take them when everyone's young, or take them when you're old! I vote for door number 1!]

Juniper continues to rest up with dad. 

(Taking a tray of breakfast foods up to them...)


My daughter, Primrose and I head out. Toward the Bon Marche Department store, with many pauses and stops along the way. Because there is so much to see!








And so many merry-go-rounds to try out!






And toys to admire! And pretty dresses and t-shirts to consider.






And at the Food Halls (La Grande Epicerie), we pick up the season's best: apricots! I have found peaches in the US that I think are the best in the world, but I have yet to find apricots that are as sweet and delicious as the ones grown on this side of the ocean. So we buy apricots. And cherries and sandwiches to take back to the hotel. Oh, and a nectarine galette for me!


(fraises des bois!)








I have to give Primrose credit: it's a long hike both ways and the stopping to shop can additionally add to the strain of the day. She holds up until the bitter end.

(One more stop! At the pastry shop for eclairs for the girls. The flavor of the month -- raspberry.)



Just by the hotel, we meet up with Juniper and her dad. The girl seems to have recovered her bounce! We pick up some coffees at a nearby cafe... 




... and head back to the hotel where the young family picnics in their rooms... 




... and I take my treats and settle in for a small rest in my own corner.


In the late afternoon we all head out again. We have a reservation at the Orangerie. No, no, it's not a restaurant -- it's a museum and it has Monet's Waterlilies and they are magnificent! If you have any interest in art, you will remember them forever once you have stood before them (do you agree?).

Getting to l'Orangerie is no small matter, but the girls are well rested and Juniper seems way better (one of those super duper quick recoveries) and so we walk. Along the banks of the River Seine.




Primrose remembers from one of her books that there is a glass pyramid by the Louvre and she really really wants to see it, so we detour a bit, then get back on track!


(a first sighting of the Eiffel Tower.)



And, we meet up with a dad and his son -- same ones who were with us in Copenhagen! They're not following us. They have family in Paris. We ramble a little with them...

And then we rush to meet our reserved entrance time. There is no wait for those who plan ahead and book an entrance hour.

Monet's waterlilies. I need say no more...




There is a big sign asking people to be quiet as they view the canvases. Juniper took it upon herself to remind people with her gentle "shhh!" Visitors smiled and obliged.







The perfect amount of time here is as long as those you are with remain spellbound. We came for the water lilies. We spent some time with them. We leave.


And now Primrose really would like a treat. Us grownups wouldn't mind a break either. So we go to a Tuileries Garden  cafe -- the one next to the merry-go-round...

And Primrose orders ice cream, and Juniper orders ice cream, and us grownups order cool drinks and it is a beautiful moment indeed.









From here, it is one step toward the merry-go-round. As usual, the ticket seller gives me far more passes than we could possibly use. No matter. I will return someday with someone who wants that ride on a carousel...




It's late. We have a dinner reservation. We walk hurriedly back.



I was apprehensive about this one: my daughter wanted to return to Le Procope which is a Parisian classic. Some say it's the oldest restaurant in town (400 years old is indeed pretty old!). Traditional foods expertly prepared. Will the two girls survive a white table cloth meal, with waiters buzzing expertly around the packed tables?

They do indeed! It starts with Juniper loving the idea of eating olives off a toothpick.




Then loving the taste of French butter (Ed's with her on this one!). Then came the main foods. Chicken and beef dishes that melt in your mouth...



And finally, two shared desserts: chocolate molten cake and crepes flambé.

The setting of fire to the crepes got Primrose a little worried. But the taste of the crepes was so good that I could hardly take a picture: they all devoured them so quickly!

It was a joyous ending.




(a playful walk back to the hotel...)





Laughter and full bellies and gratitude that this day, which started off with the threat of storms and with a Juniper sluggishness, ended so beautifully, with energy and enthusiasm and so much love...


Saturday, July 08, 2023

leaving Copenhagen...

Copenhagen


One last good morning from Copenhagen! Perhaps you're thankful that I will change my breakfast venue! I admit, I fell into repetition with all that I ate in the morning. As at the farmhouse, breakfasts are an anchor for my day. If you wear a smart watch, you know how it asks you to start the day with a meditative moment? Yeah! At my morning meal.




I come back again to the question of happiness. (I often come back to this in Ocean. The perceptive reader will have figured out that these posts are, in fact, about finding happiness. And here I am now, finishing my week among "happy" people.)

It isn't hard to figure out why Danes are closer to contentedness than most of the rest of us on this planet. Community. Safety. Diminished worry. It's a combination of economics and culture. An understanding that you're not in it just for yourself: you bike with others in mind so that you can be safe yourself. You contribute, so that if you are sick, you never have to see a bill. You play together, you live for your connection to others. It's all so obvious! One (safe) midnight walk to my hotel was enough to let this sink in. 

Danes appear to me to be reserved but friendly. I dont know that it takes as long to fit in here as it does say in France or Italy, where a generation will pass before you're one of them. In Copenhagen, so much of the forward looking design, cuisine, architecture is aided and assisted by the presence of outsiders. Yesterday's chef at the Mexican place was a woman of Mexican heritage, but born in Chicago (and trained for a while at Noma). I hear this kind of stuff all the time: when I went out for a coffee that first afternoon in the young family's neighborhood, the barrister addressed me in English even though I had said not a work. I asked her -- now how did you know?

Know what?

That I was English? American? Is it something I'm wearing?

She laughed. No, you could be Danish! It's just that I don't speak that language. Only English.

I know that I do look Danish/Dutch/German. In France, I never speak English to the locals so they always have to guess where I am from and those three nationalities are always, always, always the ones that are thrown on the table.

So here, being from elsewhere is okay. 

How nice. How utterly nice to feel safe and accepted and cared for. Happy indeed.

[I know I know I know. Simple formulas are never as simple as you make them out to be. Nonetheless, I do believe that rugged individualism, which Ed, for instance, does defend for all the innovation that it generates, comes with that heavy price tag of self promotion. And it spills and trickles and before long you realize that being kind has somehow fallen by the wayside. How often do we acknowledge that wanting more for yourself inevitably means that you may be taking something away from someone else?]

So I leave my lovely corner room at the Villa Copenhagen... 




... and I go to the airport and there I meet up with the young family. We are all traveling to Paris together.


Paris

We arrive in Paris ahead of schedule and just ahead of a big storm system that will drench the city with showers and thundershowers on and off for the next 24 hours.

(disembarking at CDG airport)



Paris. How many times have I been here with my younger daughter! As a little girl, walking in her black ballet flats ahead of us, somehow sensing even at age 5 that this city requires extra care with presentation. As a college student, braving with me winter storms that unexpectedly hit the city and cut us off from returning home. As a young adult, with her husband and now as a mom with her two kids. I watch my life unfold through trips with her here!

Shockingly, we are not staying at my favorite Paris hotel. They messed up the reservation and though I know we all make mistakes, and I am forgiving, and I will be back there this fall and forever more, for this trip I booked this rather complicated set of rooms and instructions elsewhere. An upgrade really, which is okay for that rare trip I get to take with this wonderful foursome.

So, we are staying at Hotel d'Aubusson, which is just a five minute walk from my regular old Baume. Toward the river, so arguably even more central to all that we need in Paris to make us happy.




They have two adjoining rooms, I have my own little one elsewhere.




(we find treats in the rooms: macarons! and balloons for the kids! champagne for the grownups!)



The weather does dictate this day and the next one. I'm so happy that this afternoon's storms hold off so that we can fit in a walk to the park! But it is hot!


(leaving the hotel: matching sandals!)



(To the park!)



(always with the dazzling flowers...)


(a walkers' paradise...)



(But did I mention that it was hot? 91F/33C and humid...)



We eat dinner at the wonderful Breizh Cafe, which I know you have seen here many a time, especially on all those first nights in Paris! 



I'm not sure buckwheat crepes are the crepes of choice for kids, but these do a credible job of eating them, especially since it continues to be toasty warm. A French eatery isn't going to pass up a chance to fling open the windows for that sense of eating en plain air. Even when it's 91F outside! There is no great love for air conditioning in Northern Europe.

The kids had lots of activity today and no naps to speak of, so the young family retires after dinner. I extend my walk just a little. To the river, where people spill out on the banks for just a smidgen of a cool breeze.




(hello, Eiffel Tower...)


We are not in this city for long. There's only so much vacationing a working couple can do. We're not the French after all, with their remarkably long vacations and summers of leisure. Still, the few days that we have here already feel special. We've been promising Primrose (named after the primroses that bloomed in the Luxembourg Gardens on the day she was born) a trip to the city with the Eiffel Tower for three years now and finally, we are here.

Tomorrow, we will try to fit in some walks, avoiding the rains and thunder clouds and heat as best as we can. In Paris, you are never supposed to care about the weather. We will see if that holds true!

Bonne nuit!

With so much amour!