Wednesday, March 22, 2017

interlude

It's odd to be in Poland for only one week and on top of this -- to cut out for two days right in the middle of the stay. Yes, I admit it -- it's a bit odd. But I don't shy away from the odd. Too, it's very true that my travel and my connections are greatly influenced by the availability of inexpensive flights. This Paris interlude smack in the middle of my Warsaw week and this was the only way I could spend a wee bit of time in France on the cheap.

It's a relaxed kind of a getaway. In the morning, I have a leisurely breakfast in my apartment...


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I listen to the sound of my neighbor who still appears to be angry at his son, and then to the much more pleasant sound of children's voices outside. I peek out and watch them walk two by two -- young kids doing an outing. So common here, that not a day goes by when I don't run into many such groups.


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I close up my apartment and take my bus from here...


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... to the airport. Good bye Warsaw (see you tomorrow!)...


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Hi, Paris!


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I step out of the RER train station and immediately I am in the Luxembourg Gardens. This always is my welcome to Paris.

It's slightly warmer here. For me -- it's wonderful! Warsaw is a tiny bit ahead of Madison in terms of spring, and Paris is a hefty bit ahead of Warsaw. It's thrilling to  see the flowers, the green grass, the kids with their sailboats, adults with friends and lovers...


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Tulips, primroses -- they're all up and blooming. How good is that!


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(Actually, quite a number of things are blooming...)


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I'm in my hotel room ever so briefly. Time for a selfie or you'd never know that I was really on this trip!


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Out for a walk now. Not only me and my high spirits. Him and his dog, too.


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I pass a cafe where you can munch on the neighboring bakery's pastries. It just so happens that the ones that look the best (in my view) also have the best name...


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I eat dinner at restaurant l'AG. I tried it last time, loved it, was able to reserve a table for tonight. I wont show you pics of food. My time in Paris is so short that spending it on describing food on Ocean seems to be even odder than taking the time to fly out here for an overnight. But I'll include this one photo of the two people who work the tables at the tiny (but oh so great) little restaurant. I think they're in love. Don't you?


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Bonne nuit, bonne nuit... Think spring thoughts. Dream about pussy willows and primroses.

Tuesday, March 21, 2017

letting go of confidence

One good night of sleep, and another characterized by sleep-lite. Maybe the third will be sleep-heavy? You can never tell when you mess with time zones.

I am lying in bed, mentally calculating how many hours of sleep I should have clocked in when I hear a distinct bell ringing.

But what bell? I have my iPhone. I have skype. I have google voice. I have my Polish phone.

I decide it's none of those - it's the intercom to the downstairs entrance.

Who could it be? My sister has keys and besides, she's busy cooking up a storm at home. Who would be trying to see me at 8 in the morning? A mistake maybe. I ignore it. The bell stops but then starts again.

I get up and try to open the bedroom window. The shade is half drawn, but I manage enough of a crack to see a retreating form: a young man with a back pack. (My sister later tells me that it's likely the son of my downstairs neighbor. They've been fighting and oftentimes the older man throws the son out and refuses to let him back in.)

Alright. It's quiet again. That is until the opening window dislodges the whole shade and causes it to come crashing down on me.

It takes a long time for me to figure out how to climb up, way up and find a way to attach it to the clamps.

And so I begin the morning humbly running late. Enough time to glance at my morning bouquet...



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But not enough time to eat breakfast.

It hardly matters. I am meeting my friend for a morning coffee. She is my oldest, enduring friend. And as I rush to meet her, I think -- where it not for my friends and my sister, I would not come to Warsaw as often as I do. I love the place, but it would feel empty without them. They, and not my history here, are what makes this home.

I had asked my friend to pick our coffee place and she writes without hesitation -- let's meet at Brunet Cafe. It's an Iranian place and it's been targeted by the nationalist racists here. Vandalism, threats -- that kind of thing.

I wanted to walk, but I am late, and so right by my old University gates...



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... I catch the bus and meet her there.

It's a lovely little spot and they even offer a breakfast of oatmeal. (A patrol car drives by every few minutes. The proprietor checks in with the police. They move on. ) And of course, I have a wonderful set of hours with my friend.


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We catch up on everything, but we also veer toward politics. How can we not -- last time I saw her in January, we had not yet inaugurated a new president. But she tells me the political drama in Poland is even more intense.
I cannot agree. How can it be more intense? She is an avid reader of the press. She knows what's going on overseas.

But when I listen to her, I realize that it can get worse. So long as democratic institutions are still functioning to provide checks and balances, one hopes that eventually the better instincts, reason, knowledge -- all those fine elements of a society will prevail. But there are no guarantees. In too many countries, the attack on such institutions is very very strong.

We have lived through so much turmoil in Poland! Can those who mock a free press and an independent judiciary have such short memories?!

By noon, we both have to move on. We walk together toward the metro, concentrating on the pretty neighborhood, the signs of spring.

It's the first day of spring -- my friend tells me. My sister had earlier said the same thing.
No it's not! I had looked it up to be sure. Spring officially arrived here at 11 a.m. yesterday. At the same moment as for the rest of the northern hemisphere.
But she reminds me -- it's all in how you describe it. In Poland, we've always regarded the 21st as the beginning of the new season.

She's right, of course. You can describe things however you want. Custom drives such vocabulary. And anyway, it surely is beginning to look and feel like spring here. Even as the Polish grandma (as opposed to me!) still bundles the child in layer upon layer of warm clothing!


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(This vendor is selling what I regard as the quintessential Polish flower box plant: the pansy. I am amused to note that these are actually from outside Poland: Sicily. Does it make sense to treat Europe as one? Does it make sense not to treat Europe as one?)


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(I stop at a bakery to pick up what surely can be regarded as a Polish cake: poppy seed - this one combined with a Polish style cheesecake.)


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(Riding the subway, I come across this young Pole. I hope he doesn't mean what his t-shirt says. I want to tell him -- you that's too big a request. Too high a price...)


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(Pussy willows. On sale everywhere. Absolutely everywhere.)


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My goal for the afternoon is to be at my sister's place. She is hosting a dinner party for her old school crowd (and I do know some of her old school crowd) and I'm to join them for the evening.

She is a great hostess, attending to detail, putting her heart into the meal, to the presentation of it as well.


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It is a terrific evening, with wonderful food and a great mixture of Polish and English (my sister studied the English language at the university here and her friends, who date back to those years, jump (like her) between the two languages with ease).


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And here's a treat: the two music school students who rented my apartment before I bought it came to the dinner party as well. They're progressing terrifically in their musical careers despite their relocation complications.


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Later, I ride the metro back to my place and I think -- it's as if I haven't left, right? Except that I have. And so this now is my interlude. My break. My departure from the routines of a farmette life.

Monday, March 20, 2017

spring!

Oh, but I love this season! It's rarely off to a good start in the regions where I live, but it progresses toward a rhapsodic view of life blossoming, of renewal and growth, and it's done with such flair and beauty that it takes your breath away!

And today it all begins.

I'm in Warsaw and I have all the stuff that I need for a good breakfast.

I spread out a tea towel that I brought with me, not because one ought to use a tea towel as a place mat, but because it has that lovely combination of images that define this week: in the corner it boasts in French that it is Le Printemps (spring! and yes, there will be something French for me this week) and then it moves to sketches that speak to my childhood in Poland -- lillies of the valley, plump cherries ripening on village farmsteads, swallows darting to catch this bug then that...



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On the table, you'll notice the pitcher of flowers and you may remember that there was much debate and little resolution as to which flower may last the week, but perhaps it's not the blossoms that matter (though they are pretty) -- to me, it's the pussy willow twigs which always made it to jars at home in my younger years of a Warsaw spring.


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Welcome, spring! Welcome indeed!

Still, it is on the cool side today. A high of 50F (10C). And it's not there yet as I set out toward my sister's neighborhood where we are to do some shopping, not for me this time, but for her.

On my way out, I walk down the stairwell of my apartment building. It's got a few chips and dents, but it's clean and ... homey. My neighbor downstairs occasionally pokes out to see who is passing through. Another neighbor's pup yaps at us all.  Outside the window, you can catch a glimpse of the monastery that's located just to the back of our building, behind firmly locked gates. Here's a nun pacing outside the high walls, talking earnestly on her cell phone...


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In Warsaw, I believe all apartments are heated by radiators. (I've never seen another form of heating here.) The stairwell has radiators too and that's grand: toasty warm when you enter. On the radiator that's right next to our mailboxes someone put out three books. I look at the titles: War and Peace, The Politics of John the XXIII and Paul the VI, and finally The Essential Guide for Senior Citizens. I pick the last one up and look at the index. Everything you need to know! From why and how you should make up a will, to where you may look for services, to your rights to stay in your home even if you do not own it. I put the book back. (By afternoon it's gone.)


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I take a meandering route to the metro. There's no hurry. And I want to take in Warsaw. You know, to make that correction to whatever images of it I have thus far.

In the course of my walk I pass dozens of flower stands. Poles love their flowers. Hmmm... is it something that I took back with me to the U.S.? Did it originate here? Because surely I remember dozens of flower vendors from my childhood as well. Spring meant posies of violets and English daisies. Forget-me-nots and lilies of the valley. These days the flowers aren't necessarily from riverside meadows. But still, they are an essential element of your home's decor: they announce a well lived life.


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I stop at a bookstore. I am intrigued by the big children's book in the window -- the one that says "Spring on Cherry Street" -- in Polish of course.


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I go inside. I like the book. It has large, complex pictures of scenes from a spring day in some hypothetical town. There are few words and yet the book feels remarkably Polish. Maybe it's the three nuns that are like three Waldos on each page. (One task might be to "find the nuns," though perhaps that's strange to a child who, being raised in the U.S., has never seen a nun in her life.)

As I resume my walk, I notice how many older couples walk arm in arm, or sometimes even hand in hand. (Here's a humorous sign outside a coffee shop: Good Warm Coffee (arrow points inside), Cold, Awful World (arrow points outside.))


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Habits. Culturally ingrained and maintained. Impossible sometimes to let go of them. I come to an intersection. A small street, completely empty. Light is red. I cannot just stand there. It goes against the grain of where I learned to cross streets (in New York). I mean -- ridiculous. There's not a car in sight. I shrug my shoulders and cross on the red light.
A policeman saunters over to me: what do you think you're doing? You want to cause an accident?
I decide to forego pointing out that there are no cars.
Sorry... I was in a hurry.
Well now, you think you can just ignore the lights?
No... Sorry!
My sister later tells me I was lucky: she was zapped with a hefty fine. She said they've moved from giving verbal warnings to handing out tickets. In any case, on the next light I wait with the rest. But there are no cars! My feet itch to cross!

I hold back.


Most often, I pull out my camera when I think something is so... I don't know, typical! And I especially think in those terms when I see someone my age. There is something of the soul of Warsaw in these people who grew up to see the changes here in the same way I did.


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On the subway (which I now take because I'm running so late) the new generation is plugged in. The old generation reflects.


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My sister and I shop in a row of shops close to where she lives (the southern most tip of the city). Ha! I see a Snowdrop type!


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But equally fascinating are the shops. You cannot say that we are in an exclusive area of town. It's comfortably middle class (for Poland; less so for those of you on the other side of the ocean). But the food stores -- they're wonderful!

I'm impressed with all of them, though I'll mention only a few: the meat shop, with its abundance of everything, including these lovely homemade pates.


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The bread bakery -- well that's a given. Poles, like the French, love their bread and they love it fresh!


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The fish store has a dozen beautiful herring salads, and the grocery store!! Oh, the grocery store!  This perhaps is the best of the lot. The vendor has everything: not just local (though come summer, he veers toward homegrown), but EU and in rare instances beyond. And all of it of such beautiful quality! The apples, the dill! The strawberries from Spain (we get them daily now, he tells me), the endive, beans, oh, just everything! Add to this barrels of sauerkraut: several types!

It seemed to be a family affair and they do know their product, their suppliers and obviously their customers.


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Why do we not have green grocers in the U.S. anymore? They are ubiquitous in France of course, but I always thought that it's because the French are a bit gaga about food. I see that they're ubiquitous in Warsaw as well. Imagine having your own neighborhood grocer! Someone who knows you, picks out the good apples for you, and tells you when the next shipment of berries will be delivered. It's no secret that I dislike most produce sections of major supermarkets. I shop at Whole Foods in large part because of the produce section there: it's better than the rest. But it's not the same as these small shops. And so Warsaw has flipped: it used to be far far far worse in terms of food than the U.S.. Now, dare I say it?  I think it may be better. With prices that are less than half those in the west.

I think about all this as I get back on the metro. I'm loaded down after all. Couldn't pass up the sauerkraut...

As I climb the steps to the street, I hear music. I pause to watch.


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I know where they're from  -- Romania. To the westerner, Poland is inexpensive and wages are low. To those in the east and south -- this country is a place where you can find work and decent pay. Economically speaking, Poland is many steps up from most other countries of the so-called Eastern Bloc.

(Looking down the street that I always cross on my way home...)


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(Another photo of a person my age -- someone who looks so much like the older women of my childhood... Oh, the hat and bag may be finer, but essentially, she is as she would have been then...)


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I pause to pick up some tulips at one of those flower stalls not too far from my apartment. I tell the vendor -- no, don't bother with the ribbon. It's just for home.
She is a bit aghast and ignores my directive. So what! You want to carry something pretty, dont you?

She reminds me of my Italian friend who was equally aghast when I had told her I don't care how I dress on days when I don't have social engagements. Don't you care for yourself?!?
It was the same admonition.

The flower person hands me my bouquet and I say thank you and good bye and she says thank you and good bye and then adds -- I wish you a very nice day ("zycze milego dnia!"). It is the third time I hear this from a vendor today! It's completely new and it sounds so foreign here! Did they all read in the paper that with a market economy you wish people nice days when they finish doing business with you?

Oh, the changing face of Poland!

At home, I mix up my cultures a bit: flowers from here, a little cup from Paris, chocolate covered ginger bread hearts with sour cherry filling  -- oh, so very much from here!


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Evening. If at the farmette I am socially quiet for long stretches of time (except for events that center around family), in Warsaw, there aren't enough days to do all that I want to do with friends here.

Tonight, I am a guest at my architect's home. Karolina and her husband invite me over for supper with their wonderful two children. I take my time getting there. It's always so interesting to walk a city at dusk. Here's a dad taking his two out for an evening stroll while presumably the mom fixes supper.


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Finally I am at Karolina's place. The food is grand, and spending an evening with them is just lovely,  and the kids are awesome, though unfortunately their little girl reminds me a bit of Snowdrop, so there is that nostalgia at work again.


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(The ever yummy desserts of Warsaw...)


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I leave when it surely is way past their kids' bedtime. I note the park across the street and I think -- why does it feel so Polish to me?


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Perhaps because it is. Just that.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

travel, continued

[Over the Atlantic]

I always forget to pack some trivial thing. I don't write things down and so the mind moves elsewhere and one or two items are left behind. This time I omitted a stack of New Yorker magazines, which is a shame because they are perfect for long flights.

Still, every mistake is also an invitation to live your life differently and so on this trip, I find myself reading very carefully the magazine Holland Herald -- it's free and it's stuck in your seat on I assume all KLM flights.

Let me quote from one wee story (with a photo of Amsterdam canal houses at night -- lights on, curtains pulled aside):

Ever wonder why Dutch people tend to leave their curtains open, giving passers-by a full display of their interior and indoor activities? Well, the common explanation... lies in the country's Calvinistic history. Apparently, leaving your curtains open shows you have nothing to hide and lead a modest life.

Another possible reason might be the lack of sunshine in the country, especially during winter. And the locals would like to catch as much light as they can. So, they are actually not welcoming you in, only the sunshine.

I smiled at that because in fact, Ed and I do not use curtains. True, we live in the country, but even when I lived in my Madison condo and prior to that -- my downtown apartment, I never closed off the outside world. Oh, do let go of your naughty thoughts: the very private activities were not/are not on display!  Still, people who visit are somewhat incredulous. You never draw the curtains? And then I will admit that in the summer time, the sun streaming in through the skylight is so bright in the morning that I have draped a cover to that window, so that we can sleep in late if we wish and not be blinded. Otherwise -- no.

And though we have no Calvinist heritage, Ed and I do feel pride in the modest nature of our interior. There is absolutely nothing of value in the farmhouse. Old cheap furniture and kid toys. We have nothing to conceal. And, perhaps equally importantly, we love the outdoor light!

After reading every last bit of the magazine I turn to the inflight movies. I finally work up the nerve to watch Manchester by the Sea which is so terribly tragic that I almost cannot sleep because of it (I say "almost ... because of it" since it's never clear to me why I cannot sleep flying eastward, even as Ed tells me I only think I'm not sleeping.)

I then watch La La Land (again!) to lull myself into another world and shortly after I am in Amsterdam, where I eat my mostly unhealthy breakfast.


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At the gate I shut out that conversation around me and try to figure out (by looking rather than listening) if I can spot the Poles and the Americans in the waiting area. It's a game that a lot of us displaced and/or transplanted people play. It helps us feel connected to our knowledge base and the culture in which we once lived. Here's a couple who gave me not the slightest bit of doubt:



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Having bypassed the whole Paris mess, I easily connect to my Amsterdam - Warsaw flight and suddenly travel is methodical and calm again. Rocky beginnings do not foretell continued chaos.



[Finally, Warsaw...]


I arrive tired but grateful. Just a little bit late, just a little bit windswept (strong gusts up and down the face of Europe) but glad to be here. In my apartment. Where everything still smells fresh and feels very welcoming.


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I don't linger at home though. My sister is with me and she has a music lesson and I walk her to it, and I have a long grocery shopping list and she walks me to it, and so the rest of the day passes very briskly: one two three -- it's done.

I'll leave you with two photos. In the first, I am hurrying toward the riverside metro stop. It's windy and as I have already mentioned -- not that warm. But it's also Sunday and so I am not surprised to see many groups of people -- families, mostly families -- out for a walk.


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It thrills me that this most enduring habit hasn't disappeared.

And I also leave you with a pic of a small flower shop. When my sister and I go to the big grocery store across the river, we pass it and inevitably we pause. Today I had a tough time deciding which pinks and reds should come back with me to the apartment.


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Can't you tell me which will last the week? -- I ask the person who sells flowers.
No, I cannot -- she answers bluntly.

By now, I'm beginning to remember the layout of the grocery store. And I've also come to remember this particular flower shopkeeper: she is the kind of person who will not meet your sweet inquiries with sweet responses, but when you purchase your flowers, she'll throw in a little bit of this and a little bit of that and arrange it all beautifully for you. Her goodness comes through if you just pause and, without rushing, purchase a small spray of flowers.