Florida

The Atlantic Ocean beach grows shady and gloomy here in the afternoon. (We're at the Vero Beach hotel, right at the water's edge.) The buildings are so close to the water that they shade the setting sun to the west. I suppose on a hot day you could grow to like the completely sunless beach. And here's who does like it: turtles. The stretch of coastline in this county, I'm told, is the largest turtle nesting place in the world. Loggerhead, Green, Leatherback. Thousands of nests exactly in these months. (They do not like light. They come out toward dusk or in the dark.) To me, it seems a little unreal. So much shade, on a beach! But this morning! Ah, this morning... Sunrise is right there before us.

Looking out from our balcony, it is just stunning.

(and now that the sun is out... time to get going!)

Breakfast. Not a buffet style. Snowdrop orders pancakes and is very happy. I look at the stack and wonder why on earth they serve portions that no one (let alone a child) can ever finish.

Then we do some last minute switching around. My plan to eat meals at the hotel got foiled by the hotel's sudden closure of their restaurant due to some Halloween private event. This turns out to be a blessing for us, as the food was unexceptional and terribly expensive (by my budget). Turns out there are eateries within walking distance. This is just splendid! I book a dinner on the island at an Italian place -- something I know will make the girl happy.

I'd already decided that our stay here will be all beach. For the pool -- we'll return to Orlando tomorrow. We pick up a stray bucket, for Snowdrop to use, at the hotel counter, but, too, we walk over to the Vero Beach junk store (it's not called a junk store but honestly, that's what you find in local souvenir places) to check out what's there. For the beach and to take home for the brothers. For us? T-shirts with turtles of course.

(going shopping in a swim suit...)

Though what the girl really wants is the stuffed mama turtles with their babes, right there in the hotel gift shop. To commemorate this turtle paradise.

(you can read about it here)

Now for some serious beach activity!

 

She works with the one bucket and with collected shells.

(looking inland toward our small but large for the area four-story hotel)

And here's the rub -- the ocean isn't really for kid swimming. There are rip current warnings everywhere, and even without those, you can tell that the waters are not friendly to anyone except the strongest swimmer. I see no one in the water. So it's splash and play for us.

(funny! she just wrote a short graphic story about a crab...)

And that's just fine. We wanted beach. We got beach. And warm sunshine. What more could you possibly ask for!

(a passerby asked if we wanted a windy picture...)

Lunch? We eat outside, at tables to the side of the pool, because the girl spotted grilled octopus on the menu and this child, true pescatarian that she is, really loves grilled octopus.

(during our travel meals, Snowdrop often fills little booklets with graphic stories... she now has quite the collection)

We take a Vero Beach (the island) walk afterwards. (Mostly because she heard there is a Kilwins ice cream place in town and me -- I want a cup of good coffee.) 

Walking along "Ocean Drive" (which, rather obviously hugs the ocean) reminds me so much of my Florida trips way back. On the side of the beaches, you see one and two story motels. On the other side -- shops that cater to visitors in those motels. Insofar as I see people -- they are middle aged or seniors, but of course this is because schools are keeping kids away right now. (Only Snowdrop's has this oddly placed late October break.)

It is incredibly hot. I mean, the thermometer will tell you it's 83f/28c, but on the street, where no breezes come in from the ocean, the unshaded walkway is toasty warm. Snowdrop wonders how people manage in the even hotter summers. Indeed, when people ask us where we're from and we tell them it's Wisconsin, we get the sympathetic response that it must be "so cold" there now. She always protests that first of all, no, it's not "so cold," and secondly, snow is beautiful!

She gets her Kilwin's favorite -- a chocolate caramel apple.

I get a coffee. Which unfortunately is made with sour milk. There's hot weather for you! Grocery deliveries are in danger of giving you sour milk! We walk back to the store. I get a fresh cup. I relent and let her have an ice cream. Vacations are not times to limit stuff like that. Besides, the girl was active on the beach!

At the hotel, we rest, we read. She does not want the pool and I dont blame her. It's a draw for mostly older people cooling off in what looks like a bathtub. We're happy to put off swimming until tomorrow.

But I do think we should explore some more. 

("waiting for elevator" photo) 

We had walked south along Ocean Drive. Why not walk north?

And if you ever doubted that Vero Beach has great wealth (the condo complex next to us looks rather ordinary, for example), you need only look into the private mansions that line the coast to the north here. They are... extravagant. And way too close to the ocean in my opinion.

 

 

 

Eventually the sidewalk turns into a narrow boardwalk.

It's a great place to walk and there are any number of seniors here now, in the cooler hours of late afternoon, doing just that. Again Snowdrop reminds me that she does not want to live in a warm place year round. Again I smile at how firmly we stick with our convictions... until at some point we don't. (Though of course, I agree with her -- I can't ever get unused to the changing seasons. Even as the year-round flowers here are very pretty. But who wants to garden year-round?!)

 

Dinner, at the Pomodoro. Walking distance.

We eat outside. And it is truly lovely. And delicious! She orders calamari, of the unfried kind -- loves it! -- followed by her beloved spaghetti. I have seafood pasta. I have had many, many seafood pastas in my days and so I can be fussy. This one was absolutely delicious. 

(Pause for an update from Ed who appears to have lined up a sailing gig for himself. Coming up soon!)

We end with ice cream. We're close to Kilwin's, what can I say...

 

On our walk back I ask her -- which place is really different from home -- southern California or Florida. She doesn't hesitate: Florida. And I agree with her. Florida has a vibe. I wont try to find words for it here. You've probably visited the state. You likely would agree.

Back at the hotel we hit the midpoint of the private Halloween party that preempted our eating dinner there tonight. It. Is. Loud.

I tell Snowdrop -- I'm going down to the lobby to complain. Be right back. 

I want to go with you. 

No, just wait. 

Please!  

She comes down with me.

I've known this to happen sometimes -- a hotel will host a private event and it will be loud. It drives me nuts. That they do it -- well, I can't be surprised. Such money! But I think they owe it to the guests to fess up in advance so that choices can be made. Kimpton Vero Beach didn't fess up. 

Snowdrop was impressed by my calm but firm manner. And by the fact that in response, they discounted the room by 50%. One has to give them points for that, but not enough points. I hate loud noise, especially in a hotel that is not cheap. Ah well, there's always a TripAdvisor review to really rub it in.

Eventually the party does end and we can crack the door and spend one more night listening to the sound of the crashing waves. It really is beautiful, even if my little companion does call it simply "white noise."

with love...

Florida

We cross the state today: from its belly to its shores. A real sacrifice for me, since I truly prefer getaways that have zero driving involved, but if you want to show a child even a fragment of Florida, you have to drive.

Our wake up is beautiful. Bright blue skies outside. True, the view is sort of resort-y. This is a state with a flat landscape and in places like Orlando, there are many areas of green that seem humanly created rather than initiated by nature. Nonetheless, it can be very pretty for what it is. We eat breakfast downstairs, outside, looking out on the lagoon. Is it a real lagoon? I mean, it has water. It has green plants growing to the side. The girl says it's lovely. She sits next to me just to have that view. Me, I like the birds that seem to appreciate all the cool bathing opportunities.

And now it's time to make use of the fabulous pools at the hotel. Don't think theme parks! Think warm weather (high of 84F/29C) and meandering pool waters with waterfalls, slides and all those things kids like Snowdrop just love to pieces. (Our hotel's pool is good, but it's the sister hotel's pool that's the draw. We're allowed to use it, which is a total joy for the girl. It has a crazy big set of slides.)

(going down in a tube)

(or without)

(trying out their pool)

(then returning to our own)

Lunch, by the pool.

Then, we pack up and return to the airport to pick up a rental car and from there, it's... road trip!!!

Well, almost road trip.  We inspect the car. Take photos of dinges. Load it up. I turn on the engine and get a pop up warning that the engine needs inspection. I go all the way back to the rental desk. "Oh, it's probably some routine mainetenance like an oil change." Thanks, Hertz. I don't accept "it's probably just..." They back pedal. "Would you like another car?" You bet your sweet booties I would like another car. And we do score well on the exchange -- we get one that has a mere 16 miles on the odometer.

Snowdrop is at her best at times like this. She's no wimp when we try to get help. She'll roll down the window and shout out to the attendant if we're being ignored. And when we finally do set out, she takes my phone and puts herself in charge of navigation. It is actually a very very lovely drive to Vero Beach. (One hour and 45 mins from Orlando.)

Florida, by car. Reel me back to my childhood, why don't you! My parents liked to use Christmas break for a road trip south -- from New York to Florida. How many times did we do this? Three maybe? Poles from the UN group favored Fort Lauderdale. It was cheap then and the owners of one small rental property seemed not to mind renting to people from the "Eastern Block." It would take us three days to get there. In a black Chevy with vinyl seats. How easy it is for Snowdrop now! No worries about being welcomed in hotels across the state,  no vinyl car seats, no three day drive. 

But also -- not many orange groves these days, at least not on the stretch we cover today. I know that citrus growing has gone way down over the years (disease, climate, natural disasters). Indeed, Florida's citrus crop in 2023-2024 is said to be the second lowest in 100 years. That's more than 90% down in the last two decades. (California grows now almost all orange trees in the U.S.) And yet, we can't shake that association: Florida and oranges. For my generation at least, this was the state that gave us the best of the best.

 

We cross over on the Merrill Barber bridge to get to the barrier islands, home to our hotel -- the Kimpton Vero Beach. (Kimpton hotels are part of an SF group, but they do a reliable presentation of lodgings in many, many parts of the world. They call themselves the bold and playful group and I suppose there is a recognizable attempt to go in that direction.)

About Vero Beach itself. Well, it has its virtues. It does seem more like a mix of old Florida and some resorty type stuff at the shore line. Not just highrise codos as far as the eye can see. There may be an interesting town. It remains to be seen. The hotel itself is... funky. It is so close to the water that I swear you could feel a splash of water up in your room if you lean out. (And we do get a very nice view room.)  The beach itself is a bit unkempt and at high tide, it leaves little space for play. You wonder if perhaps the hotel is just a little bit too close to the water's edge. The pool is remarkably small. True, the Orlando pools can spoil a person. My expectations weren't high, but this one is utterly tiny.

Still, we are here for the ocean and the ocean is awesome. We only spend a few minutes at the water's edge, but the girl cant resist picking up a stray bucket and digging away and, well, letting her feet soak in the moving water.

 

 

 Of course she gets wet. And it just doesn't matter.

 

 

 

We eat our evening meal at Cobalt, once more the "informal" hotel eatery. I suppose we could drive over to any number of places in Vero Beach (the town), but spending time on this is completely not worth it. She'll find something on the menu here and so will I.

(calamari!)

It's okay stuff. Friendly wait staff. Terribly expensive. I mean, twice as much as Orlando's dinner. Sure, we ordered more. That's because we were compensating for not ordering the dominant item on the menu -- beef. No matter. The calamari were fine. My bisque was good. Our four scallops were astronomically overpriced. 

Tomorrow, we fall into our beach vacation routine... Today? Sleep to the sound of crashing waves. They are indeed close!

roar... swish.... roar... good night!

to Florida

Let's pause for a sec on my thought process here: when and why did I decide to take my nine year old granddaughter to Florida?

The when part is easy: in the dead of winter. Maybe January or February, I thought about October. And why Florida -- specifically why Vero Beach Florida? Well, last year, on her Fall school break, I took the girl all the way to southern California. She loved it. She would have liked a rerun of that trip. But California is a long flight and in the end, we spent most of our time there either at the beach or by the pool. I did not want to do much more than that, given that I had just recovered from Covid and besides, I'm really not a fan of lots of driving. Just getting to the hotel was enough for me. 

Why not give her a taste of Florida instead?

I searched for many days for a place in that southern state that wasn't just a string of high-rise condos or hotels. A place that wouldn't ask of me to drive too much. A place with access to the water. Of course, all that searching happened before the hurricanes came ashore this Fall.

Vero Beach was the rare bird that seemed to have it all: a low key feel to it. A beach town, right by the ocean. In fact, the place I chose -- Kimpton Vero Beach Hotel-- is on one of the barrier islands. Yes, we know how that's faring these days, but from the point of view of the visitor, especially one from the cold Midwest, that seems like a pretty wonderful thing. (Then of course the tornadoes roared through.We'll see how things look there these days...)

We're not going straight to Vero Beach the first day. Our flights (you have to take two from Madison) have us land in Orlando, which is the closest I can get to without spending a fortune. I dont really want to drive 100 miles toward evening, so we'll overnight in Orlando and much to the girl's frustration, we will not go to Disneyworld or any of the other theme parks. Many reasons for that, perhaps the most important being that her brothers cannot be left behind on such an adventure. And, too, I am not a good companion for any amusement park since I do not like rides at all. (I finally went along with a Disney trip for my two daughters when they were younger. I wasn't a total party pooper, but nor was I as thrilled with being there as they deserved me to be. And with age, my attitude toward these places has only grown worse. So no theme parks.)

Okay, a night in Orlando, where she can wistfully wish she had a more amusement park loving gaga, then three nights by the ocean.

But first, we have to get there.

I'm up early. Too early to feed the chickens. A quick breakfast with my best breakfast companion...

 

 

 

... and I'm off to the airport, where the parents drop off the girl.

We pass security. We have about an hour. We come to the gate. "I'm hungry! It smells of bacon here..." Growing child... But she has a point: it does smell of bacon. She loves it, but has sworn off all meat. She settles for a muffin and fruit I brought from the farmhouse.

 

 

 

We catch the 9:25 to Detroit, grab a very unhealthy lunch for her there (fries and frozen yogurt -- it's hard to be a pescatarian at the airport!),  and an only slightly better one for me (a Kind salted caramel almond bar and a latte at Starbucks -- she tells me: that's what my other grandparents like too! It's old people food!), then take the somewhat longer flight to Orlando. (I do stuff her with inflight pistachios. Delta is big on packets of pistachios.)

Traveling with a kid. In their younger years, it's such a mental and physical challenge! And then they hit about 9, 10 -- all the way until they're teens, and if they have travel in their blood and an adventurous spirit -- they are fabulous on the road. They're excited by fountains, by lights, by moving walkways -- and that's just the travel part. They lap up information as if it were candy. They challenge you, they assert very tiny preferences, but they haven't yet realized how much power lies in their little hands and so they go along. 

It is true that as I get older, I worry about how many more years of travel I have in me. I have plenty of energy, but I don't like the fact that I seem more prone to catching stuff when I'm away from home. I'm not quite an Ed ("it's too much trouble to get there" -- he tells me, as he passes on another sailing crew opportunity in the Caribbean). Me, I'll go to the trouble. And yet... I'm sure you've been picking up these small threads of worry here, on Ocean: how long will I keep on "going to the trouble?"

We land in Orlando, we cab over to our hotel (the R-C Grande Lakes, chosen almost entirely for its cool pool)...

My idea is that we simply check out what's here. For tomorrow's splash and play. Her idea is that we should use the few minutes before dinner for a quick swim. Let's see who got to decide on that one...

 (elevator frolic)

 

 

Okay. She's in.

We eat dinner at the Highball and Harvest, which is supposed to be the informal  "fresh farm produce" eatery at the hotel. And it is. Informal. I do not check the farm credentials. She chooses the kid salmon, I take the southern dish I grew to love back in the days when I visited my grown daughters in D.C.: shrimp and grits. Absolutely delicious.

Dessert? They've left us plenty of sweet treats in the hotel room. We'll stick with that.

 

In so many ways, we are lucky. Florida can get the rains in the fall, but as far as I can tell, we'll have plenty of sunshine and warm weather.  It's not a place where I'd like to be with her in bad weather. The success of a Florida escape, fortunately or unfortunately depends on warm and dry days. I am so grateful for what we have now.

Tomorrow we head east!

with love...

Tuesday

Ed rumbled around early in the morning (Or was it night still?), bringing the cat into the bedroom with him ("I can't have him scratch at the door! He's lonely!"), then Snowdrop's watch, left behind yesterday during her change to ballet clothes, began ringing (first a "wake up" call, then a "get going" message) - guys, cats and watches, all conspiring to get me up and out to the barn just before sunrise.

To add insult to injury, Ed then had to leave for an early morning eye check, so breakfast was like this:

Alone again, naturally.

We, of course, need rain. And at noon, it does finally, at long last, rain. For two minutes. Lightly. That kind of shower just irritates the animals. It does nothing for the soil and the plants trying to grow in it. 

Well, what are you going to do. It's pretty outside. I'll grant it that.

I pick up the kids today and after days of indulging them with a drive up to Culver's for their french fries, I finally hit the brakes on that one. Yes, they get healthier foods once at the farmhouse, but must that first pang of hunger be treated with utter junk? Oh, but they are hard to refuse! Especially since we pass Culver's on the drive home. But today I stand firm. SO firm! Um, we do stop for ice cream at Tipi's instead.

The farmhouse visit is a tiny bit shorter because I need to get the kids back home and indeed, I need to be there with them, because it is my task to pack the older girl for her trip tomorrow. (Otherwise there's not enough of one thing and too much of another in her suitcase. Or, that's my prediction.)

We pack, I take her suitcase with me and drive home.

Home. How Ed and I love our home! Even as he is sending emails to various boat captains to potentially join their crew on a sailing gig and I'm printing out boarding passes for my own flight out tomorrow. It's difficult to explain why things pull at us in the way that they do, and which ones we resist and which ones, in the end, we indulge. But to be clear -- we both love with a fierce passion our time at home together. 

Our evening. On the couch. With reheated chicken soup, a square or two of chocolate. And so much love...

Monday

Just call it what it is: a hot October day with plenty of sunshine. Once again. Everything is dry. Not unpretty, mind you, but strangely dry and of course -- very warm.

Warm enough to once again eat breakfast on the porch.

 

Windows open, breezes blowing -- where am I anyway? This isn't Wisconsin, is it? Is it? By now I should be thinking hygge thoughts. Warming up in my comfy sweats, perhaps with the sheep patterned throw casually thrown over my lap.

Not so today. We're reaching 79F/26C this afternoon. 

 

(why does a chicken climb a tree?)

 

I spend the morning indoors anyway. A zoom call, an internet task -- these take time. But by noon, I'm ready to head out and so is Ed. We go to our favorite park. I have to admit, I find it stunning in its dry state. I'm mollified by news of a weak La Nina weather pattern this winter. Perhaps worrisome to regions to the east of us, but for the Midwest, it means we'll likely have a wet winter (snow?!). A sigh of relief for sure. 

(Walk photos)

This week will be a bit out of the ordinary because it comes with days off from school for the big kids, and those old enough to travel with me (currently only one qualifies) are on board, well, is on board to take a small trip exploring corners of this country that she hasn't yet seen. Last year we went to California. This year I'm less ambitious, but still aiming toward warmer weather. (Usually by the end of October we're all missing the warmer weather around here, in Wisconsin.) Our small trip begins on Wednesday, but already I'm feeling like I should get ready for it. And I am. In my head if not in real time.

For now, I do the usual Monday big girl baby sitting...

Ending with taking her to her ballet class. And from there, I go on to grocery shop. Dinner -- a chicken veggie soup I cook up afterwards, is very very late.  

Tomorrow, I'll get myself ready for travel. Tonight? Rest, for sure.

with love...