Chicago week

I feel like by the third day I've shaken off my farmette habits completely and taken on the Chicago routines as if they were mine all along. I leave my pied a terre, joining the crush of morning commuters, being ever so careful because there are kids everywhere, trying to beat the clock (I'm staying just across the road from Chicago's Lincoln Park High School). I pull into the flow of cars, crawling west, listening to the radio person tell me the highways are  standing still with congestion today. It's cloudy, with rain, Good morning Chicago!

At my daughter's house, Primrose is there at the top of the stairs, waiting to greet me...

And now there is a series of photos where Primrose leans. The girl definitely has creative ideas on how to set an image.

Once everyone has left and the youngest babe is fed and napped, I take on the project o giving her a bath. Easy peasy with a girl who loves water. And the fluffy towel wrap after. 

And speaking of leaning! Juniper!

There, that's better. I think.

Smiley picture for today, because really, it's not fair to not include at least one little grin when she offers so many!

All routine by now. Play, sleep, feed. And repeat. Many times.

Despite the really cool air today, I bundle her up and we go for a walk. I don't dare go far. There is a persistent threat of rain. Still, the routine to take that walk is as solid as a morning walk to the barn back home. So we walk. For the lilacs! And for all that's growing and good outside. 

In the evening, I once again stay for dinner at my daughter's home. For Primrose, but really for me as well.

So much for giving them space to settle into their own now back-to-work routines! Ah well, they don't have to twist my arm hard for me to stay. The food is always great, the company -- exquisite.

(a toast!)

And as before, I return to my pied a terre very late. I flick on the TV which actually has no TV channels at all, even as it does seem to have Netflix and possibly a bunch of other streaming services. I mention this to my daughter and she surprises me by saying -- oh, we don't have any TV on our set either. How could you possibly schedule your evening around TV shows! You stream them if and when you can find the time. 

In fact, Ed and I aren't TV hounds either, but still, it's there and we've been known to pick up a PBS documentary in its regularly scheduled time slot. I knew this was rather quaint -- my older daughter also never watches any "television" -- but I did not know that this generation just doesn't bother to even hook up TV channels. I remember being surprised when they gave up on phone landlines. It took me several years to give up on mine (and Ed even longer, but that's because he doesn't have cell service). Adopting new technologies is way easier than giving up on old ones. 

So tonight I half watch another one of those British architectural shows as I finish up my Ocean work and I think -- it took me a while to reconnect with Chicago in any meaningful way. But these repeated immersions into the neighborhoods where my daughter hangs out is much the same as my immersions in my older girl's neighborhood back in Wisconsin. Their neighborhoods have become mine as well. And that's a good thing if you believe, as I do, that stepping out of your own bubble and slipping into someone else's is good for you. 

With love, for all that's good here and in all peaceful neighborhoods the world over...

Chicago week

I'm scaling down my walking ambitions for the day. It's cooler, I'm lazier, less curious about my neighborhood (because I gave it a good once over yesterday), and I'm conserving time. I so often start in on a new place (or new as compared to my usual orbit) with excessive energy, packing it all in, taking the photos, doing all that I feel needs to be done to enrich a time away from home, and then I step back and say (to myself) -- hey, slow down. The world wont go away. Don't push yourself.

So today I drove to my daughter's home. (9 minutes, as opposed to the 29 minute walk.)

I came in to an excited household. Or, at least an excited little girl.

Grandma, did you know it's Norwegian Constitution Day? -- this from Primrose as I come up the stairs.

She spins around and shows me the Norwegian colors in her hair.

Her sister looks on, with her usual wide eyed gaze of wonder: "No one told me about Norwegian Constitution Day! Will I get ribbons too??"

Of course, all this only affirms Ed's standard line that every day is a holiday. It's not that Norwegian Constitution Day has any great meaning for us, but it's a reason to wear ribbons and make the day sparkle. 

She goes off to school, the parents plunge into their work.

The house grows quiet. Juniper and I play. 

As I take the occasional picture of the little one, I have to ask myself if I am being fair to her. A story about a child is as much (perhaps more?) about the story teller as it is about that child. Writing on Ocean for so many years, and then publishing Like a Swallow (see sidebar!) makes me acutely aware of this. In the case of Juniper -- I am enchanted by her gaze, so that most of the pictures I take (and nearly all that I post here) have this classic Juniper look of utter amazement. Like this one from this morning:

But don't I owe it to her to be more balanced? After all, so often, she is like this:

And that's equally precious of course, except I do so associate her with the wonder-filled eyes. Yes, these:

It's just one of the many reminders that Ocean isn't supposed to be about the kids or grandkids. It's about being a grandparent (and a parent and a partner and a farmette person and a writer and a traveler and whatever else creeps into my life and sucks me in whole).

Today again I take this youngest grandchild out for a walk...

Though as I said -- it's a less physically ambitious day. We go to Olivia's, the sweet little grocery store in this neighborhood -- a place where I routinely pick up flowers for my daughter's home. No cafe plans, no distant bakery trips.

But speaking of flowers, Juniper and I do take many pauses to smell the lilacs. They are blooming heavily and everywhere!

I have my fill of that bewitching fragrance. And today, Juniper gets her fill as well.

At home, she shows off her skills. She rolls, she reads (or at least turns pages), and when he's done with his work day, she snuggles into her dad's face. She does not mind beards.

In the evening, I stay with the young family for dinner. I don't want to mess with their schedules too much, but Primrose has pointed out the unfairness of my spending a whole day with her sister and not a fraction of that time with her. So tonight, I try to balance it out just a tiny bit.

And much later, I return to my Lincoln Park digs and think about how lucky all my grandkids are and by extension, how lucky I am too. That's the thing about luck -- it tends to trickle down by association. It trickled down plenty for me. I am so very grateful.

With love...

Chicago week

Morning walk to feed the chickens? Not today! Morning walk from my AirBnB (or, let's call it my pied a terre) to my daughter's house. 29 minutes of very typical and at times very lovely Chicago blocks with that Chicago vibe that I've grown so fond of since I began coming here to see my girl and eventually my girl and her family. 

I used to live in Chicago while going to graduate school, but that was a different era in the city's history and I lived in the south and the air was charged (for good reason), and I can't say that I fell in love with what I saw then. But, there is so much to like here now and if you could only begin to solve the country's problems, that would surely trickle down to those neighborhoods here that continue to suffer because, well, too many people don't care enough to support an effort to find solutions. Chicago is no different than New York or LA or Miami or Minneapolis. Or Buffalo. It reflects the best and sometimes the worst of human impulses. And let's remember this: our small towns are not free of trouble. Maybe we should dust off that slogan that was fleetingly popular just a couple of years ago -- we are all in this together.

In the meantime, spring is in full swing. Everything is fresh, everything is green and lovely.

I arrive at the young family's home just as Primrose gets ready to leave for school...

... and her parents start their work schedules, sometimes at home, sometimes in an office. So Juniper and I are left to our own devices.

(Let's see a pic without a rattle in her mouth!)

And in the afternoon, I take her out for a walk. It's a path I walked again and again three years ago when Primrose was her age: all the way to Milk & Honey -- a neighborhood cafe that is especially great these days because it has expansive outdoor seating. Not all babes love a long stroller walk. So far, all my grand girls (less so the boys) have been fantastic stroller adventurers! Juniper is no exception here.

We pause for lunch. Well, I munch a frittata, she watches. 

Juniper is 5 months old, Snowdrop is seven, and the other three are spread in the middle. There have been seven years of babies in my life, which is sort of remarkable because they're so young and I'm not so young and they're so impressionable and I'm not so impressionable, and yet grandparents and babies are such a good fit! Well, for bursts of days or hours. I imagine round the clock care for months on end would be pretty harrowing for us older types.

Toward evening, my girl comes home from her work (and her husband stops his) and she and I walk over to pick up Primrose at school. A picture? For me? Thank you!

(Passing lilac: there's lots of it!)

(Dad and Juniper are waiting outside. It's windy!)

The day ends with my walk back to the pied a terre. 

Back in the Lincoln Park neighborhood, I stop to pick up some supper food at the Blue Door (which, after my daughter's cooking, feels just okay!). I was going to get some work stuff done tonight, but all the walking and the early start to the day made me far too sleepy to be productive. No matter. This is my week for Chicago family life. A rich week indeed!

With so much love...

To the city

My frequent switch from country to city, then back again to farmette lands reminds me a little of a TV sitcom. The contrasts are so great that it all lends itself to humorous commentary (think: Green Acres). One minute you're furiously cutting back rhubarb which is threatening to take over an entire field of lilies (we did that, then put out a sign by the road...)

 

... the next -- you're checking into a tres cute little pied a terre (more accurately -- under the terre, as it's only halfway above ground), where you'll be spending the week, because the young urban family needs you to help out with baby Juniper.

In the morning, I'm chasing chickens...

In the evening, I'm sipping a glass of wine in the young family's home which happens to be walking distance to an elevated train stop (the L) and really close to a lovely store that sells delicious chocolate covered caramels.

The thing is, I love to live in the country, but I do also love visiting what was once my turf -- city streets, with all their bakeries and cafes and little shops and pot holes and urban noises and people not saying "hi" when they pass you on the street. Living in contrasting spaces is good for you. 

 

Morning, however, is still at the farmette: it's beautiful outside. All lilac and crab apple and lilac and emerging yellow iris and lilac. A splendid show. Truly at its peak.

Then the basement floods. 

How many times has the curly willow pushed its roots into the pipes running from the farmhouse? Too many to mention. In the past, Ed has left the task of unplugging the blockage to the rooter guy. But recently he picked up a pipe cleaning machine to do the job himself and so now, instead of planting trees, he's down in the basement doing stuff I'd rather not know about.

Success! -- he tells me.

We eat breakfast.

And now he goes off to plant...

... and I get into the car and two and a half hours later, I'm in the city.

I dump my bags and head over to my daughter's home. Hello Juniper! So, you're five months old already! And hello, Primrose! I cannot believe you can carry that little sister already! 

(This is what love looks like...)

It's a special time -- we celebrate Mother's Day with a home cooked meal of gnocchi primavera (so many delicious signs of spring in it!) and and a mother daughter baked lemon pie. Yummy stuff!

And great company. Eating dinner at daughters' houses can be habit forming!

I shouldn't linger, but I do. To play with Primrose. And then to catch up with the two grownups. 

And in the meantime Ed calls and asks whether to put the chestnut next to the maple, or the walnut nextt to the other walnut and I get a whiff of our country issues right here in Chicago. Oh, and I brought a bag of popcorn with me just in case I missed our evening routines too much, though really, I'm too full of pie and good moments with the young family to want to tear into it tonight.

With so much love...

Cooling Down

Slowly, the heat is moving on. We didn't get violent storms, which are often the ticket to exiting a heatwave, but we got a little rain. Enough to make me think the plants are all doing fine.

It's a beautiful day -- one where I have to do more clearing and cleaning and pulling and digging, but it's good work, because in spring, the soil is moist, the plants appear well spaced and moving between them is a cakewalk. 

But all eyes are on our spring jewels -- the crab apples and the lilac, now fully in bloom.

Stunning and full of that fresh fragrance that stays with you for years and years. Who doesn't remember their childhood whiff of lilac?!

One foot in spring, the other seems to be testing summer waters already. Yes, it's warm, but, too, the schedule is starting to break up routines that have been with us for most of the school year. Things are happening! Some family members are returning to work (post maternity/paternity leave), some are planning vacations, some are thinking of upcoming child birthday celebrations. All this in the next few weeks! We are zig zagging between pleasures and gatherings and hefty schedules, mindful of the pandemic (no, it's not over), giving in to the pull of the great outdoors.

Disrupted schedules start today: we're having a family Sunday dinner on Saturday and not at the farmhouse. Don't ask. Our scheduling details are not that important. I'm still cooking, partly here, partly at my daughter's house.

Hello, Sandpiper!

Sparrow, do you think you need a haircut? No I don't!

Daddy's teaching me poker! I love it!

(Dinner)

 

I pull up to the farmhouse just before sunset. Ed is out in the courtyard, gathering shovels and buckets. The trees have arrived! -- he tells me with not a small amount of excitement.

We'd been waiting for them for a while: they're replacements for the ones we planted in the New Forest last spring that didn't make it through the winter. (We'd put in 67 and we lost 14. Considering we'd planted six inch dried twigs with insignificant roots, I'd say we were lucky!) 

 

 

As dusk set in, we put down our tools and headed back inside. Well, almost inside. The tractor mower is out and the meadow trails are disappearing under the grasses and weeds, so I take a spin around the property reaffirming the paths that would be with us all summer long. It's pretty dark by the time I roll the machine back into the barn.

And at home, Ed and I slide into our usual couch time together. If I am here, this never changes. An evening of reading and show watching, over popcorn. And maybe a bar of chocolate. A glass of wine. This side by side time is solid. Keeping to such sweet habits keeps me sane, even when there is so much going on that it boggles the old mind! 

One foot in spring, the other in summer... Hey, need some summer reading? May I suggest Like a Swallow -- just a click at the sidebar will lead you to a preorder form (or, find it on Amazon. No, silly reader, you can't get it yet. June 3rd, okay?)

With love...