Tuesday, October 04, 2016

Tuesday in photos


A working breakfast. We discuss how it is that people engage in risky ventures.


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The coming of fall at the farmette...


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I pick up Snowdrop at school -- I ask her if she wants to go to the coffee shop. No , she says. This way! She points to the playground behind it. I smile.

She tries the last of the big slides. The one that twists and turns. Success!


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I take the swing photo because it is a guarantee of a smile.


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We then go to the coffee shop. She is so good at drinking from a big person glass!


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At home, she plays with her toy cat. She feeds it blueberries. She understands that the real cats aren't ready to be her best pals. She makes do.


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After her nap, she wants to be outside again. We walk over to the park just down the road.

We race each other on parallel slides.


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At home again, we play ball. I don't quite know how to play football, but at this age I think I'm okay with just throwing the football and shouting "touchdown!" Snowdrop is delighted.


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Because she is a well rounded child, she then switches to dress up. 


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Go out! Shop!
Not today, Snowdrop. Not today.


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But I love your choice of shopping attire!

Evening. At home. Cooking supper. Watching the vice presidential debate.

Monday, October 03, 2016

travails of farmette life

As predicted -- it is a brilliant day out there! Autumnal and lovely.


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At breakfast we talk about what needs to be done. Oftentimes this is idle chat. We make up a list and then do not follow it.


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But today, Ed finally fills the mower with gas and sets to cutting back the grassy fields of the farmette. We try to make the fields smaller each year by replacing them with flower beds or vegetable gardens, but three acres is a lot of land and so there remain stretches of grass that right now look like we're getting the land ready for a flock of pasture animals -- the grass is that tall.

Once he works the mower over to what I call the wedding pasture (it's where tents were set up a few years back for my daughter's wedding), I wave him to a stop. He does not turn off the engine, but looks at me questioningly.
Turn it off!
I can't. It's charging.
Okay, but I need to mow here. For five minutes.
You'll have to sit down as I get off, otherwise it'll stop the engine as I get up from the seat.

We do this complicated maneuver.

The reason I always want to mow here is that Ed dances around emergent raspberry canes. He wont cut them back and I know too well that if we let them go, we'll basically have a farmette of raspberry canes.

I mow the area I want cleared. Done.

No Ed on the horizon. I continue mowing.

Ten minutes later, I'm still mowing. And still no Ed.

One hour later, I'm still mowing and cursing under my breath, because the machine is moving very slowly and many of the tall grasses have to be mowed over two or three times before I'm satisfied.

Finally, as I steer the mower toward the next field, I see Ed trotting toward me.
Where were you??? I shout over the noise of the machine.
He reaches for the key and turns off the motor. Waiting for you to stop. 
I thought you couldn't turn off the engine!
It's charged already.
I did not know that. He glances at me with that "well, you should have known that" look. 
Besides, it's moving so slowly I could hardly get it to work.
He looks over at the controls: you've been mowing on idle???!?
What do you mean?
All this time, you had the throttle set on idle? No wonder it had no oomph!
But that's the way you had it!
Gorgeous, I pushed it down only because we were switching places...

I think I just am not good with machines.

And of course, by now the morning is gone and it is time to pick up Snowdrop.


The little one had a busy and full half day. The kids spent a good bit of time outdoors and I was not surprised to arrive and find the "all day" kids all fast asleep on their little cots.

Snowdrop rarely gives in to tiredness and indeed, as we step outside, she asks to go for a walk. I'm thinking -- this burst of energy can't last. I'll indulge it.


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And then I cajole her into the car with promises of the red wagon, strawberries and favorite stuffies all waiting for her at the farmhouse.


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Once home, we set out for a wagon ride -- it's easy going, now that the grass is cut!

When the place was overgrown and impassable, she'd wanted to go to the farm fields to the east of us. Today, I push the wagon there, proud of myself for mowing down a path straight to it.


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She is only mildly interested. She admires a few field flowers...


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Then turns and heads back toward the farmhouse.


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No problem, Snowdrop! You must be hungry for a light snack of fruit...

(She loves picking out people on the Paris place mat picture and giving them identities. The guy with the baguette is daddy. The cool looking woman reading a book is mommy. Etc.)


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She plays for a few minutes, but perhaps the little toy wagon reminds her of the great outdoors again because she asks with great urgency to go out once more.


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Okay, Snowdrop. We'll go feed the chickens bread.

She's thrilled with the idea, sporting her own piece of whole wheat bread to keep them company in their snack.


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I didn't see Butter eyeing Snowdrop's wee hand and missed shooing her off as the white hen reached up and ever so nimbly took the bread straight from Snowdrop's hand.
Mine! Snowdrop cries in anguish.
She didn't know. I explain that cheeper cognitive abilities and perceptions of possession are far less sophisticated than ours, but I know that for today, Snowdrop has had her fill of farmette chickens.

And I know as well that the girl is way overdue for a nap.

And she sleeps for a long time.

After? She looks at me inquisitively: what now, ga ga?


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I tell her -- we have to fix your high chair.

It's a decorative fix: pegs have to be hammered in to cover up screws -- but I hadn't wanted to wake her and so I waited 'til now.

She is fascinated.

But intimidated. A hammer? Bang bang bang? You do it ga ga!
No, you help me, Snowdrop.


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Phew. Heavy hammer. Hard work. Bang bang bang!

Job well done.


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And I think it is so interesting that immediately after the hammer work, she asks to go upstairs and she reaches for my bowl of amber beads. But here's a catch: they get caught in her hair, again and again.

Snowdrop, let's pull your hair back in a pony tail. See? Gaga is sporting a pony tail.

I pull her hair back with one of my bands.


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She can't see it of course, but she feels it (again and again). I show her (again and again) my own pony tail and she gets that this is what she has now.


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Well, so long as we're in the big bedroom, can we open up the closet and get gaga's shoes?


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Snowdrop, they're too big! Fine, put them on. But they're too big!
I can do it!

(Let's not tell her that she got the shoes on the wrong feet.)


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She then tries on a pair of my slippers. She can actually walk in these and now she is hell bent on showing off her new look to ah ah.


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It takes a lot of cajoling to get her to give up "dress up play" in favor of going outside. (Note that the beads stay on.)


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She takes her owl purse with her and in this last photo, she reminds me of an old woman out there in central Europe going out to the market to pick up the week's supply of pickles or beets for borstch.


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We take a spin around the fields once more. You've seen photos of her, of the flowers, of the fading crops. Let me end with one of the sky. That great Midwestern sky, all full of clouds and rays of sunshine and patches of heaven tinted in shades of cornflower blue.


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Sunday, October 02, 2016

Sunday

Everyone has less productive days. They provide a pause, a respite. They remind you that in life, you needn't always go forward. Indeed, you don't always have to be moving, period.

Today was one such day. Ed had proposed taking the kayaks out. Then he proposed an excursion. Finally he suggested a 30 minute tennis game.

We did none of it.

Sure, I did clean the farmhouse. So thoroughly that Ed commented that he'd never heard the vacuum run for so long.

And I cooked dinner. And it was a good dinner.

In between? I sat at the kitchen table and studied shoes and socks at Zappos.com -- ones I perhaps should buy, ones that I see others did buy, leaving behind many stars and accolades, but ones I did not buy because, well, I try hard not to spend money. You should resist impulsive buying on gray days and on any days of February, because these are the times when you're not thinking straight. Buying is just a  stand in for the absence of sunshine and warm air.

Let me recognize the finer moment of the day. Breakfast -- with the dahlias from yesterday's market. They looked better yesterday that they did today, but on the other hand they look better today than they'll look tomorrow. Some flowers have a very fleeting yet profound beauty.


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I stepped outside for only a minute -- to give the cheepers some bread. I did find this little vignette to be rather pretty. Who said October is a month bereft of flowers?


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Now let's roll straight to the evening.

Perhaps one of the most heartwarming details of this day came with Snowdrop's joyous run toward the farmhouse. Here she is, arriving.


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My daughter says that at home,  Snowdrop routinely sets the table for dinner. I test this idea.

Yes, so true! She is an enthusiastic helper.


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(Very happy after a job well done.)


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Dinner. Ah-ah cannot tear himself away from the news show. We wait... but we tell Snowdrop to dig in.


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She does. Pasta with fennel and tomatoes and shrimp. So many of her favorites, all on one plate.


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Oh, but it's a good evening! After dinner, I do not return to my idle browsing of woolen socks, of boots, of  slippers. I'll leave that for another day, another month or year. Right now I see the skies are clearing, the stars are poking through. I have the promise of a sunny day tomorrow. And a good bit of Snowdrop in my waking hours. That's plenty warm for me.


Saturday, October 01, 2016

Saturday

Sometimes days can be so satisfying even though all appearance would have you believe that it's a dismal state of affairs out there.

I go out to a morning of a dense cloud cover -- the kind that tells you that it's going to be a wet day no matter what the forecasters say. I know my daughter wants to walk to the downtown farmers market.
Should we try it?
What the heck -- yes!

And so after breakfast (where you get a full view of Snowdrop's placemat, which she and I purchased together a few months back)...


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... I go over to Snowdrop's home and she is so excited and so very happy (what a surprise -- this girl wears a big H for happiness on her sleeve all day long and she receives many surprised comments for it -- what a cheerful child! one hears again and again).


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The walk to the market is long -- maybe a 35 minutes each way -- and the drizzle starts and we say oh-oh, but then it dissipates and we continue undaunted.


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She is happiest when toward the end we let her abandon the stroller...


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... and we all chase each other on the green and the world doesn't seem so gray after all.


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I leave the young family after this. Snowdrop has a school friend birthday party to go to this afternoon and I get this pang as I realize that the little girl is becoming a not so little girl very very quickly.


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(Maybe not so quickly...)


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Friday, September 30, 2016

their thoughts, my thought

Sometimes I have a better clue as to what my beloveds are thinking than I let on. Other times my guess is as good as yours. 

Today,  I think I can do some second guessing. Follow along.

Morning walk to the coop. Ed's happy -- I'm doing the early walk. What's there not to like?


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Breakfast. He's been a tad under the weather. But if you ask him -- how do you feel? He'll always, always say -- great!

I know better.


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The girl comes to the farmhouse after school. Here's her "Italian old man" walk:


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She insists on taking the stroller out. I oblige. I push her up and down the rural roads. I retreat.

She insists then on taking the wagon out. I oblige. Up and down the farmette lands.


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She wants so much to go out into the fields to the east of us. I oblige.

She says then -- eat peppers!

I say no way, no no no! These peppers are so hot that if you touch them, your fingers will be tainted for days.


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She goes to the flowers. The farmers have always invited me to pick as many as I want for myself. I never have done that. But today I let Snowdrop do the picking for me. Sure, she only tackles one or two blooms. Half spent ones at that. But still, I am grateful that she is welcome here.


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I am also grateful that she just manages to avoid sweeping her hand over the bloom with the bee intensely occupied and possibly not welcoming a Snowdrop interruption.


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Here, she's for sure thinking: why aren't you rolling forward? I want to pull you! Why are you stuck??


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Snowdrop has her n'th "I've just begun school" cold. After her nap, she learns to wipe the nose of all her stuffies.


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You can see the tired look in her eyes... And still, she plays full steam ahead with her necklace and her owl bag. Snowdrop loves owls.


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Grandpa Ed, you know -- the guy who's feeling great, the one who spent the whole afternoon sleeping, comes down and reads a book with her. She is happy. He is happy.


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It all falls into place at the end of the day. For all of us.

And that's a good thing.