Thursday at the farmette

People in the Upper Midwest look forward to summer: lazy crazy summer. I understand the attraction: it's rarely (never?) too cool for breakfast or dinner on the porch. You swim, you play ball, you eat oversized ice-cream cones -- summer stuff.

But it comes with its own challenges. You know what they are: the heat, the bugs, the parched earth, the spent flowers. The dusty lilac leaves, the failed garden projects (oh, last year's tomatoes!).

In May, those challenges are few and far between. You may have your own personal struggles with the beauty of the season. I did: my first good friend when I moved to Wisconsin died in May, just two years after we became friends. Too, the only life threatening illness I've had to cope with attacked me in May. It's hard to be giddy under those circumstances. Nonetheless, for people (like me) who are extremely focused on creating great gardens outside (as best we can) -- it is a month full of perfect days. Days like no other!

And today is one of those days "like no other!"

Flickr, my photo hosting site is down for most (all?) of the day, so you may or may not see pictorial proof of this (I'll slide in the photos into their proper spaces as they become available), but imagine being in a place and at a time where color, fragrance, sunshine, vibrancy and freshness all coalesce. This is the farmette of today.































Breakfast, joyously, on the porch!






Immediately after, we plant our tomatoes. This is a project that is both exhilarating and fraught with life's lessons on patience, perseverance, and accepting adversity. I think this year will set us back once again: the soil is good, the plants are strong, the weather is cooperating. But since the last study of our various options, the trees have grown, the shade has crept in and I do not think we'll have enough hours of sunlight on the new patch to hit a home run. Still, we keep on trying, because we have these wee plants and we have this space...


(buckets of water)




















Time for a quick coffee/lunch break, surrounded by flowers because, well, it's May! (Lilies of the valley are the latest addition.)






In the afternoon, I pick up Snowdrop. It's been a stressful time for the school (nothing to do with Snowdrop but rather with the realities of having kids at any school in America today), but the little girl is full of smiles because, well, she is four and though she sees and hears a lot more than we would like to believe, still, there are some things that pass her by.

(teasing me)











I have a surprise for her today -- the kiddie pool. She is of course far too old for it. And in a few days, she will tire of it. But it is a marker of the warmth of the days before us and she absolutely loves to play games in it right about now.






(cherries and juast-picked asparagus in the pool? why not!)






(mesmerized by the cheeper scratch-and-pick routines)






Inside again, I expect her to insist on continued play, but no. She has missed her faves: she wants me to read. And read. And after paging through the new book, studying it carefully to see if it is perhaps too frightening, she wants me to read that one as well.












This is our day then. I expect it to fade out quietly. I'm tired from a week of too little sleep. But Ed and I are not done yet! We must visit our local farmers market. And eat dinner. (I reheat leftovers, we settle down to eat.) And still Ed is restless. The west-facing windows, the ones we see during these long days when the sun pours through them at the dinner hour, are dirty.

Can we wash them? -- he asks.
Now? -- I groan.

We wash windows until the late hours. And I keep checking flickr, until nearly midnight. That's it: no more minutes left in the day! Good night!

UPDATE: finally, by 6:30 a.m., photo loading is complete. Good morning!

Wednesday in Chicago

We begin our march toward summer. Or so it seems: we jump a lofty distance and wind up near 80f (26c) today!

I am still in Chicago. Primrose needs another day at home. A quick last book with mom...






... and then I take over.

So what shall we do today, little girl? How about art class? Your cousin loves art. Do you?

(good...)






(better...)






(best!)






Yes, I can see that we'll be coming back to art during our times together!






Somewhere in the morning hours, I have breakfast. The usual.






And sometime around noon, we take a walk... So warm, so sunny, so different from these past weeks!






Primrose has moved ahead in so many ways since we last walked together in the fall. She doesn't want to be left to her own devices, she wants to have a conversation. She may not have the words yet, but she surely knows how to communicate!






Giving her words is of course so important at this age. Perhaps predictably, I steer toward all that is beautiful and growing around us. Trees, with green leaves, creating lovely arches above...






Lilacs! Very purple, very fragrant.






Look, little one! A butterfly!





It hovers, showing off its enchanting dance over these full clusters of little flowers and eventually it moves on.

Sigh... we all do have to move on.

A final meal with Primrose, joined by her dad...






And then, later, I am on the bus again, returning home.

As always, I am so torn! In three directions -- two young families and Ed at home. For each, I know I could do so much more, but only if I left the remaining two for longer spells. If you add to it my travels, then I surely have filled my time, even as I want to extend my reach even further. I could have helped more in Chicago! Even as I'm rushing back, because, well, there's Ed, who never asks for more time, but has pretty much devoted these years to hanging out with me. And of course, Snowdrop and Sparrow, waiting, because we were right in the middle of games when I took off. And yet, when I ride the bus home, I think -- I could have done more. Everywhere, I could have done even more.


It's still light when I pull into the farmette. I catch Ed just before he goes off for his weekly bike ride.

(evening rituals: watering the baby tomatoes)






And then I sit on the picnic bench, shaking off wisps of angst, allowing myself to drink in the beauty of the gardens around me.

Tuesday in Chicago

If you take the 4 a.m. bus from Madison to Chicago, you'll ride with those who want to catch an early flight out of the Midwest. Most people are alert and focused on the trip ahead of them. Me, I take the time to reflect. For many years, before fares came down for travel out of Madison, all my flights to Europe where out of Chicago. Riding the bus to the airport was fine -- so much excitement, especially when the kids were traveling too! Coming back was another story. The ride seemed never ending.

These days, it's always a comfortable three hours for me. On a bus, I can do nothing but rest, read, listen to music. You can't find fault with any of that!

We pull into the city just as the morning rush hour traffic intensifies. It's just past 7. As I ride the city-bound L train, I watch the commuters get on. They have that look of the everyday about them. Surfing phones, shaking off the wetness of the walk to the station, thinking perhaps about the jobs ahead of them. One tends to worry unnecessarily about small things. I remember those work years all too well!

The trains run every three minutes now and still, they are quite full. As always, I am envious of cities that have their public transportation functioning this efficiently. New York should take note (Chicago subways are heaven compared to those in NYC).

I get off and immediately side step into the Colombe Coffee Shop. I'll need several cappuccino mugs today to keep me going!






I am very lucky: Chicago is to have a morning of cold rain, but for my walk to my daughter's home, the steady rain diminishes to an occasional drip. Am I looking for blooming stuff? Indeed! Here's an ornamental fruit tree!






And a lilac! I have to smile: almost like home!






Primrose is in that inbetween land of wellness and sickness that most very young kids visit frequently in the cooler seasons. The goal, of course, is to get her rested and ready to resume normal activities. So we take it easy.






(The usual!)






When she naps, I eat my breakfast. Who says I never break out of my same old!






I glance outside: more rain, more cold. No one can call this spring "normal." Have we lost the predictability of the past? Or is it that by my age, you think you've seen it all and so you're surprised when what you get doesn't fit into your image of what should have been?

Primrose is by now on a diet of normal foods. She gives a thumbs up to the hummus, though she fails to see the benefit of dipping pita bread into it.






Kids with sniffles and whatnots never really stop playing and Primrose is no exception.





In the afternoon I coax her into a second nap. Rest is essential, little one!

And sure enough, Primrose's energies surge after a good snooze.

There's a lot of giggling...






And a lot of chasing...





And in the evening, she eats, she bathes, and her parents come home and all feels right with the world again.

Normally I would wrap the day up with some mention of the very sweet evening we, the adults, spend together, but you know, I'm feeling quite mellow and not a little sleepy. A glass of wine and a retreat to bed feels pretty good to me right now. Good night, cool spring! Good night young families everywhere! Good night moon that will surely come out tonight from behind all those clouds that have been with us far too long.

Monday

You step out to feed the kitties, you look around and you can't believe how stunning it all is! You say to yourself -- I wish I had my camera with me! And of course, you're just three steps away from your home, so you have the following conversation with yourself:

Everything in life does not need to be photographed. Sometimes you just have to stand still and love the moment in its magnificence. No props needed.

Yes, but in February, I'll be longing for this day. I'll want to remember it. Look forward to it!

You have plenty of May photos. Why not go easy on the camera today?

Why not? Because it's all too beautiful! And fleeting. I see the first petals drifting toward the walkway.

You run in and return with the camera, reminding yourself that in May, you should never again step outside without it.











But breakfast is in the kitchen. It's a cool morning. A very cool morning.






Though if you tilt your head toward the porch door, you still get that heavenly view of lilac and crab apple in full bloom. What more could you possibly ask for!






(Well, you could ask the cheepers to quit using the blooming phlox patch as a comfy tromping platform!)






It's not a good day for outdoor work. But that's fine -- I'm caught up with the flower beds for now! What I need is to find a plant for the newly created rock bed by the front door. It's a shady spot. Not many flowers sprout blooms in shade.

I take Ed along with me to the local greenhouses. (On our way there, we stop at Walmart to restock on cat food: these guys eat like there's no tomorrow! We can't keep up!) Ed isn't by any means a "decorator." Still, whenever he chooses to insert himself into decorating decisions, he comes up with clever and always very cheap solutions. Like this one:






(A moment to admire the garden. Ed is very generous with his praise of my efforts here.)






One last small task: I had been keeping three small annuals to fill in spots where animals/weather/etc have done damage, be it in the beds or in the flower pots. But why wait for a disaster? I find three old pots in the garage and by morning's end, I have a new center piece for the picnic table.

Is that all right? -- I ask Ed.
So long as I can still put my junk up there when I need to -- he answers. No one has ever used the picnic table for a picnic. It's a place of work. A base for tools, spare parts, garden paraphernalia and two deer antlers that we found lying around.






When I pick up Snowdrop at school, there is a momentary break in the clouds. She asks for a walk to the coffee shop and neighboring playground. I hesitate. I mean, it's in the 50sF (lower teens C). But she is insistent.






(Oh those swings!)






At the farmhouse, she spots the watermelon in the mudroom. It is no longer Ed's post-bike ride watermelon. The girl loves it almost as much as she loves cherries.






Evening. I'm thinking how hard it is to juggle care for those who need your care. Take the cats, for instance. You want to do well by the mother cat. You want to give her peace and quiet to eat her foods, to not have to look around her shoulder to see if someone is ready to pounce. Then there are her energetic young ones: each one deserves time and attention. 

The kitties eat in and around the garage. We've taken to placing Stop Sign's feeding dish on the porch, to give her space and quiet. That's all fine and well, though it does mean that she gets to peek inside our home!





And so long as I'm on the subject of care for young ones, I should note that I'll be on the night bus to Chicago. Little Primrose is a bit under the weather. By morning, I should be with the little city girl. We'll see what's blooming in Chicago right now. If only it would stop storming/raining long enough for me to take a look around me, once there.