Monday, December 07, 2015

arrival!

The fact that the title of the post speaks of an arrival is cause for celebration. It was no small feat to finally pull into the train station in Mantova.

It's funny how journeys have certain auras about them. I've had so many smooth and worry-free ones! Others have resulted in utter chaos, culminating in lost days, lost bags, lost documents, lost patience. This trip had none of the extremes, but it was riddled with ripples and the fact that at each stage I almost almost didn't make it caused me to feel like I was walking (or more often running) a tight rope: one wrong move and I'd tumble into the great unknown.

Of course, once my flight left Detroit and was more than halfway across the Atlantic (delayed: fog, falling air masks, a sick passenger, but an optimistic captain who assured us he would make up the time; he was wrong) -- further issues and complications were nothing to fret about. Does it really matter if I do not sleep the first night in Mantova?

Perhaps the worst part of the trip was the transit through Paris. I think we had all coached ourselves to be extra patient at the border control. We expected the agents to take more time and we knew to remain gracious. Still, the fact that there were hundreds in line and only two agents screening passports raised eyebrows. And when one of them took a break and returned after fifteen minutes with a can of Fanta and chips, as our flights departed and connections were missed, the resolve to stay gracious faltered. Perhaps it was in the agent's contract to take a nourishing break at the height of arrivals and transfers, but our man moved slowly, spread his snack with the utmost care, got up twice to unbutton and rebutton his jacket -- all this just made it appear as if he was indifferent to the chaos reigning outside. Which perhaps he was. People commented. Though in gracious tones.

But honestly, for me it was already just part of the story. There would be other flights, other trains. I was already here, on this side of the ocean. I merely have to watch the day unfold.

In the end, just like all previous flights, my Alitalia flight, too, was delayed and I ran onto the plane puffing like a long distance runner unnecessarily. I had five minutes to spare.

Flying over a faintly misty Paris:


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And of course, to get to Milan, you have to pass over the Alps.  It's been warm here so far! If you're looking for snow, go to Colorado.


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Mantova. Mantua in English, but it feels awkward using that pronunciation here. How might you picture this medieval Italian city? First, let's place it on the map: forty miles south of Verona and Lake Garda. That may be a long journey for poor exiled Romeo, but for those speeding on a train from Milan it's child's play.

Here's what first stands out about this city: Mantova is surrounded on three sides by a fortification of large, artificial lakes, created all the way back in the twelfth century. (There was a fourth lake, effectively making this an island city, but that lake dried up a few hundred years ago.) Mantova hasn't grown much beyond this natural boundary. So, think "compact."

I'm staying at a very small bed and breakfast (just three rooms, but they are very large rooms!) called Palazzo Arrivabene. Maybe you think that in translation, the name stands for a hearty and healthy welcome to those who arrive at its massive front door. Arriva bene! Come in good health! It does not. It's named for the Arrivabene Brothers who built this property toward the end of the 15th century.

Here's my room:

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But I do not rest in it. Yes, I am tired. So much so that if Mantova hadn't been the last train stop, then I may have dozed through it. But mostly I am hungry. There was no time for a Paris airport breakfast. Or a Milan train station lunch. I am coasting on last night's plane food.

And so this is my goal: find the bakery-bar that my hosts recommended for a snack and then walk around the town a bit, the fine mist notwithstanding and get a sense of the place.

My photos, to give you and me an orientation:


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Basilica Sant'Andrea in the mist


But let's pause for that refresher snack: croissant with prosciutto and fontina and mushrooms. With a glass of Prosecco.


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A Mantovano prepares my macchiato:


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A family outing:


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The Clock Tower on one of the lovely open squares of the city:


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Mantovan shoppers are complaining about the cold (the mist makes me very happy that I took my warm jacket), but they fill the arcades anyway. Much of the focus is on food.


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Two popular items: the prosciutto...


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... and the pastas. If France has the mouth watering pastry displays, Mantova bakeries show off home made pastas.


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The 14th century tower rises above the medieval Palazzo Accerbi. In the beautiful Piazza Sordello -- a Christmas market, much of it with home crafted items made by an older generation of Mantovians:


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If there is a Christmas market, there must be hot mulled wine...


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Evening comes and with it the fog grows thicker, soupier. I will myself to stay awake until the restaurants open for dinner. Italians eat even later than the French. How do they hold out? Here's one well practiced method: before sitting down to dinner, they go for an aperitif at a local bar.

There's an idea! But where?

I read an essay by a Guardian staff writer on this fantastically ancient city. He writes that Mantova has a bar that's worthy of his list of top ten in the world. Well now! (Never mind that he also praised the Mantovian staple -- stewed donkey meat. I don't have to follow his advice on everything.)

The evening streets of Mantova are crowded with a strolling public. The shops are busy.


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I find the bar easily enough -- Bar Caravatti. It's crowded, but that's fine.


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I don't want to sit down. I join the few at the counter and I have the Caravatti house special: a spritz made of wine and a secret concoction of bitters and who knows what else. Amazing!

A Mantovano prepares this classic:


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Oh! A mirror? Okay, a selfie!


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And finally, I walk just a handful of blocks (remember: compact!) to a restaurant my hosts recommended for tonight -- L'ochina bianca (the white goose). It dates back to the first decades of the Slow Food movement (which I should remind you flourished in Italy more than it did elsewhere; the French never quite latched on, believing, most likely, that they didn't need a movement to teach them about slow food).

Apart from stewed donkey meat, Mantova is known for its pumpkin dishes and so I have the pumpkin soup, followed by a house special that properly calls itself an Amalfi pasta dish as it has seafoods mixed in with a delicate sauce, blended into the home made rigatoni.

Italian trattorias are different than what you would find in France. They're nearly always more casual, people are less intense about what's placed before them and of course, there is plenty of choice. Your kid likes pasta? Italy is the place to visit. You like sea food? Ditto.

I walk back to the Arrivabene and I am so full of good food that the air feels hardly even cool. The mist swirls and dances and it all seems rather magical. Romantic for some, peace-filled for others.


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I'm back at the b&b now, climbing the stairs of this grand home, looking up up up at the frescoed ceiling.


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 "Up up!" Isn't that what Snowdrop would be wanting after a long day of play?

I miss my guys back at home. Still, it's been a magnificent arrival.



Sunday, December 06, 2015

travel Sunday

An afternoon departure means that there is no rush. I visit with the cheepers, I visit with Isie boy. There is a light mist, but I take photos of the beloved farmhouse anyway. It looks grand no matter what weather come our way. Breakfast is late, leisurely, lovely.

I even have time to do a Sunday farmhouse cleaning. Packing is straightforward. I have no important meetings during my trip. I don't have to worry about dressing with care. I throw in a bit of laundry detergent -- it allows me to pack really lightly.

Ed hangs around the farmhouse and as always, I am feeling wistful -- to stay, to enjoy our days here -- shouldn't that be the plan for this month? These years? I love my days so much! Why leave?

But I know the answer. I know what drives me.

I also know that it's time to go, to be driven to the airport. And I'm getting a tiny hint of travel wrinkles. The first flight is late. Well, no matter -- in international connections, I give myself plenty of time. Still -- I know I'll not have the leisurely layover in Detroit. Post now, in Madison, or forget it.

Then my Lightroom photo editing program crashes. I lose the day's photos. Oh, you can imagine the cheepers, the farmhouse, a congenial Ed at the breakfast table in the front room! You know them so well, right? Still, am I going to have computer issues on this trip? No, please not that.

Mustn't worry. Think ahead to all that is good, easy and smooth. The weather! I'm heading to a climate that is not warm, but nor is it freezing. Perhaps a few good walks are ahead of me?

And just exactly where am I going? Well, I'm flying through Paris to Milan and there, I'm catching the train to a city affectionately called (by Italians) La Bella Addormentata. The Sleeping Beauty. Why? Because not many tourists make their way there.

It's a small city -- fewer than 50,000 people. But it has been selected as the cultural capital of Italy for 2016. And in 2017 it will be the European capital of gastronomy (along with a few other Lombardian neighboring cities). If you're a fan of Romeo and Juliet, you will have heard of it -- Mantova.

I'll write from there next. Have a most wonderful Sunday!

Saturday, December 05, 2015

a memorable Saturday

I had to make a lot of noise to wake the guy up to ask him then if he was alert enough to have breakfast with me.

The answer:


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After the morning meal, I drive to Snowdrop's home. Her mom and I have a date to take the little one (who is eleven months old today!) to the Children's Museum. There is to be a toddler-targeted presentation of the Nutcracker ballet. We are curious if Snowdrop will like it.

On goes her holiday dress. One last glance at the Christmas tree (which still leaves her quite mystified, in a delighted sort of way - as in: why is there a tree with toys on it in the house?)...


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... and we're off.

The production is quite informal -- a few dancers perform in the middle of the Museum's art room, with a smattering of chairs scattered at the side for the audience. But here's the thing: the director of today's mini Nutcracker had been in charge of Madison's grand Nutcracker when my younger daughter was herself a serious ballet dancer. I think my girl must have danced in it some five years in a row and what we all remember is that one of those years, she danced the part of Clara. The memories of this are especially poignant, since today's dancers appear to be wearing the same costumes that my daughter once wore.

And Snowdrop? She loves it! Unlike many of the kids who are mildly indifferent to the whole thing, she is mesmerized by every dancer,


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... every movement, every bit of music.


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... clapping away, even when it isn't a dance's end.


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And not a little in awe of today's Clara.


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We have a lovely encounter with the director (who herself is now a grandma) and the morning surely gets tucked into the files of good memories that we acquire from events that repeat themselves, but now with a different cast of players, from a different generation.


At Snowdrop's home, I have my last handful of hours with her. I'm leaving tomorrow and so I wont see the wee one until the end of the following week.


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Much of our play centers around the tree.


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She has grown to like it, but if I worried that she would be reaching to pull it apart, I was wrong. She is in awe of it and that, perhaps, is a good thing. Even so, it's not hard to get her to giggle with delight.


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Because, really, there is a magic to the whole enterprise, no?  The sudden burst of color, the presence of pine needles on the floor, the smell of a forest... Over time, you find your favorite ornaments -- here are some that are carried over from my daughters' childhood...


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and it's all exquisitely beautiful, in an expansive sort of way.


We read a Christmas book...


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I roll her around some...


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And then it's time to say good bye. Stay healthy and happy, little girl!


Back at the farmette, my list of tasks is long but I hesitate to rush through it. Instead, Ed and I take a walk...


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sunset over the farmette


And after, in a very unusual move, he and I go out to dinner at Tempest -- a seafood restaurant downtown. Entirely his idea.


We eat well of course. It reminds me so much of all the great meals we've eaten together, especially across the ocean. We nearly always agree if a kitchen is producing good food or if it's just stumbling through the motions. The funny thing about Ed is that he actually has a keen sense of what makes for good eating, even if so often he'll choose to ignore it, preferring to reheat the old rather than spend time (or have me spend time) on creating something new.


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All this of course makes it harder for me to leave tomorrow. And still, as always, I cannot imagine not going.

The usual Ocean warning: travel tends to disrupt the schedule of postings. If all goes well, I'll write something en route. If not, you'll surely hear from me soon, from the other side of the ocean.

Friday, December 04, 2015

a fine Friday

Good morning, cheepers! It's going to be a fine day!


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Sunshine in the morning...


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Breakfast in the sun room...


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Then, in an unusual scheduling twist, Snowdrop comes to the farmhouse to play.

Hi Snowdrop!


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Ready to read? Oh, that one again? Well, okay.


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She is not here for long. After feeding the cheepers, after a nap and lunch, we pick up her mom and we drive to the Forestry Department's annual tree sale. Balsams!

Puzzled - yes, of course. Why are there all these trees inside a big barn??  But with reassurance, she gets into the spirit of things.


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The tree is loaded, we come to Snowdrop's home and the unpacking of holiday decorations begins. The Nativity scene!


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And the quilted tree skirt -- a real favorite!


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And the tree. My daughter puts out treats for us tree trimmers. Goldie the cat is coaxed into several bits of prosciutto.


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Here are the young parents: jovial and spirited.


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And here is Snowdrop, loving her very own gingerbread man.


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(When she sees us eating pizza, she switches her allegiance. Good bye ginger bread man, hello leftover pizza crust.)


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The tree is up, trimmed, lit. Snowdrop has been such a good kid during the entire saga. She deserves a pause, an explanation, a reassurance that this is not the beginning of a weird disequilibrium where trees enter houses and grownups wear reindeer antlers and fur trimmed hats for no discernible purpose.


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She accepts our reassurance. She is happy. We are happy.


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The tree is up. Our whole family will gather by it during the holidays. For now I pack up the leftover pizza and bring it home to the farmhouse. 

Thursday, December 03, 2015

a very special Thursday

Of course every day is special. Of course. Ed and I agree on this. So that breakfast is special. Always. Every day.


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And planning out a day is wonderful, too. I have a mental list of things to accomplish, foods to get ready for supper. It's all quite sublime.

But as we get closer to the holidays and I get closer to my departure date (it's not a long trip -- just ten days), I especially savor these early days of December.

It's not a drop dead gorgeous landscape right now. Not enough snow. But what little there is makes me pause to admire it. This photo is from my drive to Snowdrop's home. The fields are across the road from us and though I have not a small amount of regret that the landowner no longer wants to let the truck farmers plant their crops here, turning the land over to corn and soy farming instead, I do smile at his annual habit of putting a bike and a wreath out there for all to see. It's a modest decoration, but I do appreciate the effort.


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At her house, Snowdrop wakes, eats, and gives that "let's go!" smile I so associate with her in the morning.


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Yesterday's mall outing convinced me that we ought to get her more used to shoes and so I dig out the pretty pair in her closet and tell her that she should romp in them today. She pretended not to mind. For a minute. Clap clap clap your hands!


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I had to roll her around on the floor to bring back the smile after that.


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Bouncing high in the air helped too. Way up high, in the sky, Snowdrop will fly...


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And one more sure fire winning activity: reminding her that there is this magnetic Christmas tree downstairs...


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Oh, she does not want to leave it! Even after I tell her I'll be boiling water for tea -- something that we do daily and that thrills her no end (in a happy but terrified way, as we wait for the tea kettle to whistle) -- she does not want to leave that tree.


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Nap time. Followed by a beautiful wake up. Well, it's nearly always a beautiful wake up!


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And now comes the afternoon and the day takes on an additional patina of wonderfulness. Snowdrop and I pick up her mommy at work and the three of us make our way to our favorite holiday bakery -- Clasen's. We come here only during the Christmas season and we do so for that wonderful treat that is impossible to find anywhere else here (and it's so ever-present in Germany and, too, in Poland): chocolate covered gingerbread.

For Snowdrop, there is the added bonus: the life-size gingerbread house.  I brought my daughters here every year of their childhood (presumably it's not the same gingerbread house... surely they bake a new one each year?). And now it's Snowdrop's turn.


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At first, she doesn't know what to make of it. But after running a finger across the surface, she realizes that it... is... sweet!


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It gets better. Today is the day that she is given her first sugared delicacy. Clasen's always has samples of sweet stuff around and the raspberry spice cake becomes Snowdrop's first great indulgence.


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Verdict? Oh, come on! Of course she loves it!


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So much good stuff here! The girl just can't get enough of it! (what else? Cinnamon twist? Yum!)


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Out of the cart again, she is thrilled with the crinkly paper and the ribbons tying each bag of cookies or candies.


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Such a day!

And for me, it does not end with this.

I drive home smiling. It's been a good set of weeks. If I am sometimes out of hours, or a tad tired, it's for the best of reasons. My young families are thriving. The farmette is keeping it's own. The cheepers are resilient. And Ed -- he's as he always is: smart, steady and calm.

I'm feeling steady and calm myself.

And then at home, I find a package. It's from Dan, an artist  and an enduring friend of Ocean. An image of Snowdrop inspired him to paint. Here's his gift -- a painting so exquisitely beautiful that it truly makes me spin.


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This isn't the place to thank Dan. That comes separately. But I do want to say that I have come across these beautiful spirits here on Ocean and it is so reassuring, so very reassuring, because I know that this is what we really do leave behind for our children and grandchildren. Generosity and love.

I'll leave you with that message.